Online Dating

Younger daters are really into dating apps – they helped bring Tinder into the mainstream, and now there are a slew of new dating apps hitting the market, allowing you to do everything from set your Instagram feed to music (Raya) and obtain the dating profile of that girl at the coffee shop you just couldn’t bring yourself to talk to (Happn). While younger daters are active on these apps, as it turns out, the fastest-growing group of online daters is 60 and older.

But do younger and older online daters date differently? University of Texas researchers Eden Davis and Karen Fingerman suspected that their were contrasts between their motivations for online dating, but wanted to determine this through the content of their profiles, so they conducted a study published this month about the differences in profile language and motivation each age group has when it comes to dating.

While we know people using dating websites and apps are typically motivated to find a partner and to date, we know little about the differences of what motivates them to use dating sites, what exactly they are looking for, or how they present themselves to different partners. Gathering 4000 online dating profiles from men and women across the United States, the researchers sampled profiles evenly by gender and from four age groups (18 to 29; 30 to 49; 50 to 64; and 65 or over). The final sample ranged in age from 18 to 95.

First, the researchers studied the most common words used in profiles by all age groups, which included: like, love, music, good, enjoy and fun. But they also discovered different age groups used different words in common when crafting their online dating profiles. For younger daters, these most frequently included the words: go, get, work, school, laugh, movies, much, find, think, try and anything.

Older daters seemed to be more focused on building connection. Their profiles most frequently included words like: man, woman, share, relationship, humor, travel, years, honest, important, well, sense, and family.

Eden said in her report: “Notably, older adults used more positive emotion words such as “sweet,” “kind,” and “nice,” more first person plural pronouns such as “we,” “us,” and “our,” and more words in the ‘friends’ category. These findings suggest that when they present themselves to potential partners, older adults focus on positivity and connectedness to others. Not surprisingly, older adults were also more likely to use health-related words such as “ache,” “doctor,” and “exercise.”

Younger adults tended to enhance their profiles, using mostly first-person singular pronouns like “I” and “me.” They also tended to focus on work and achievement.

The researchers concluded that adults of all ages were looking for love and a partner to enjoy life with, but that younger adults focus more on themselves and their own attributes, while older daters focused on positivity and connection to others.

We're halfway through 2015 and IAC has good news to share. The company's profit in Q2 2015 exceeded expectations, thanks in large part to the overwhelming success of the paid version of its mobile app Tinder.

Match Group, the star of the conglomerate, has driven consistently strong results for the last few quarters, and this one has been particularly momentous. IAC announced its intent to pursue an initial public offering of less than 20% of the common stock of the Match Group. The IPO is expected to be completed during the fourth quarter of 2015.

“The IPO positions The Match Group for continued success with an independent currency, and allows us to focus our attention and capital on growing the rest of IAC’s assets,” said IAC CEO Joey Levin in a statement.

The Match Group also announced plans to purchase PlentyOfFish for $575 million on July 14, 2015. The transaction is expected to close early in the fourth quarter of 2015.

The paid version of Tinder, launched in March, has garnered good responses from users, despite concerns from many that the model would fail.

"Monetization continues to perform at or above our expectations on key metrics like renewal, conversion and resubscription rates,” said Match Group Chairman Greg Blatt. “We’ve seen no discernible negative correlation between monetization and growth."

IAC reported that the number of paid subscribers for its dating services grew 18% to 4.1 million in the second quarter ended June 30. Revenue at Match Group, which accounts for about a third of total revenue, rose 19%.

Outside of IAC's dating businesses, the company has other successes to report. Within Search & Applications, Applications queries increased 8% driven by 20% B2C growth. B2C revenue increased 18% versus prior year. In the Media segment, Vimeo grew paid subscribers 25% to nearly 630,000. In the eCommerce segment, HomeAdvisor revenue grew 26%.

On the downside, Websites revenue decreased 20% due primarily to a decline in revenue at Ask.com and certain legacy businesses. Applications revenue decreased 2% due to lower revenue in B2B. Revenue in Media was down 1% versus last year, despite the strong growth at Vimeo. Operating income for the match Group in the current year period was negatively impacted by a $4.2 million year-over-year increase in amortization of intangibles.

All in all, revenue growth clocked in at 2% for a total of $771.1 million. IAC's net income was $59.3 million, or 68 cents per share, compared with a net loss of $18 million, or 22 cents per share.

There is a free communication going on at eHarmony this weekend in both the United States and Canada. It starts today (Friday, Aug 14th) and runs till the end of the day on Monday (Aug 17th)

It is getting close to the end of summer and this might be the last free event before the fall. With the event, new and existing members get to communicate for no cost on the eHarmony website and app for 4 days. The dating app is available on iTunes and Google Play for both phones and tablets.

For new members all you need to do is signup for a free membership (no credit card required) and then fill out eHarmony's profile questionnaire. eHarmony is all about the matchmaking so the profile contains a number of questions that will probably take you about 30 minutes to complete. This is for your benefit as how you answer the questions determines who you will be matched with. eHarmony has over a decade worth of research going into their matchmaking algorithms and this has resulted with them matching a large number of men and women together. eHarmony's goal is to create long-term quality relationships. Free communication events at eHarmony do not include the viewing of profile photos, secure call (phone service), or skipping the guided communication process.

Our review of eHarmony contains lots of information about the dating site and app. If you would like to find out more before you signup this is a good place to start.

By now, we’ve all heard of the latest in cyber attacks; personal information from infidelity dating website Ashley Madison was stolen by hackers who have since threatened to expose its 37 million users.

However, information about what exactly was stolen – such as credit card information or social security numbers – is still a bit hazy. Ashley Madison customer service has, according to news website Inquisitr, provided customers with conflicting information about what was subject to the hack, namely because they don’t know what was stolen and sold or given to third parties. Some customers have been told that credit card numbers weren’t hacked, but others were told that third party credit card data was indeed hacked.

A few websites have emerged to help customers see if their personal data has been leaked, including a site “Was he on Ashley Madison,” (WasHeOnAshleyMadison.com). Customers of Ashley Madison and also of hacked website Adult Friend Finder could search through emails to see if theirs were compromised. However, as of July 31, that website was put up for sale, and quickly bought by someone looking to make a statement to users of Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder. Hours later, what appears to be a former Ashley Madison user posted a statement lashing out against the company, including this paragraph to those who were hacked:

“You have been through enough pain and anger and anxiety about their hack without having some opportunistic scammer buy this domain and charge you money for data they do not have.

I have decided that I am going to fight the AM people so I can keep this domain. They have refused to offer any of their customers any kind of solace or at least a year of identity theft protection which is standard practice when your data is hacked. They prefer to sit in their ivory tower and hide behind their lawyers.

This is not OK with me and it should not be OK with you.”

According to Inquisitr, there have been many sites claiming to provide information for those who feel their personal information could have been hacked, but many of these sites have been nothing but spam themselves. According to an investigation by BBC, Ashley Madison users were sent emails providing links to third party websites, supposedly with information about the hack. Some included the recipient’s Ashley Madison user name, giving more credence to the email, but worrying customers that their information was indeed sold to a third party. However, when people clicked on the links, they were sent to spam sites that were booby-trapped with malware and, in some cases, graphic images and videos of adulterers ‘burning in hell.’

Now Ashley Madison users are turning to Reddit to provide current information about the hack to other users in an attempt to gain information.

One Reddit user claimed that Ashley Madison sold user information to third party sites from the beginning, because that user began getting spam emails as soon as he/she signed up on the website. While it's difficult to tell where exactly information has gone, it has been compromised. We'll see what Ashley Madison does next to address the issue.

Like your friend's Facebook relationship, the relationship between race and online dating is complicated.

Past studies have found that people tend to communicate with singles who share their ethnic background. According to Dataclysm, the book released by OkCupid co-founder Christian Rudder last year, race plays a major role in online dating. Whites are most preferred, while blacks are least preferred. Hispanics and Asians fall somewhere between the two poles.

That's regardless of gender. Throw gender into the mix and the stats are even more likely to make you squirm. Black women, Asian men, black men, and Latino men are the least desirable segments in the dating market. At the other end of the spectrum, Asian and Latina women are seen as most desirable (which Rudder attributes to fetishization).

What Rudder's research doesn't cover is a rapidly expanding portion of the American population: individuals who identify as multiracial.

A new study from the Council on Contemporary Families explores the subject. The aim was to examine how often Asian-white, black-white, and Hispanic-white singles received responses to messages, compared to singles of one race. In total, 6.7 million messages collected between 2003 and 2010 were reviewed.

At first glance, the study seems to reveal an advantage to being a multiracial online dater. “The most surprising finding from our study is that some white-minority multiracial daters are, in fact, preferred over white daters,” the authors write in a press release. Three combinations were particularly favored: Hispanic-white men, Asian-white men, and Asian-white women.

The study offers several theories. One suggests that the media presents multiraciality as exotic and attractive, at the same time as enforcing negative stereotypes about other races. Another posits that multiracial partners may be more appealing because they straddle the line between an American upbringing and important cultural traditions.

Beneath the potentially progressive surface, the story of multiracial dating is more complicated.

“White men and women are still less likely to respond to an individual who identifies as part black and part white than they are to a fellow white,” the press release states. And looking at the three most popular multiracial groups, a partiality for whiteness appears to be clear even when ethnicities are blended.

Looking forward, the study's findings could prove either positive or negative for online daters. On one hand, mono-racial individuals who are already at a disadvantage online may fall even father behind. On the other hand, racial lines could continue to blur until they've all but disappeared.

Here's hoping for the Benetton ad option.

For a dating site that is all about multiracial dating, you can read our InterracialMatch Review.

Thanks to Tinder and online dating, there is a bit of a gap between communicating with someone online and actually meeting them in person – IRL if you will. For instance, let’s say you match with someone you find attractive, and then send her a message. She responds right away, and you have a good text/ message rapport. So you decide to ask her out for a drink. Suddenly, she is busy with work, is out of town, and has no time right now to meet.

You feel your hopes deflating with each excuse. It is disappointed to get emotionally invested in someone online, only to have them flake out when it actually comes to the date. Rest assured, you’re not alone.

I’ve been on both sides of this scenario. It is frustrating to adjust your own schedule to make room for dating, and then your matches don’t return the same courtesy to you. Maybe she is busy with work, or maybe she is traveling a lot right now. I remember postponing first dates due to scheduling conflicts, but I quickly found out my matches dropped away like flies, looking for someone who would be available to date. And if you’re on the receiving end of your match’s excuses? Ask yourself: do you really want a relationship with someone who doesn’t have enough motivation to meet you in the first place?

If you have a little more patience, suggest talking on the phone in the meantime. And set some plans in the near future when your calendars are free and she is in town.

And if she resists that, too, claiming she just doesn’t have the time? Take heart: this is probably not a real person you are dealing with – or at least, a person who is really interested in dating or finding a relationship. This could be a scam at the very worst – and at the very best, she is someone who is unsure of what she really wants. Unless you want to end up in a textual relationship at best, or scammed out of money or emotions at worst, it's best not to even bother continuing the communication.

Remember, this is your dating life. You have the right to expect others to actually date if they are on a dating app. Don’t resign yourself to accepting an endless stream of text messages that go nowhere. Instead of lingering in your messaging app, hoping someday to take things offline, cut to the chase sooner. Ask him or her out for a drink or coffee. If they put off meeting you, move on to the next.

It’s hard to know if there will be a spark between you until you are looking at each other in person, IRL. So meet your dates.