Relationships

Why Women are Often Attracted to Older Men? (The Sugar Daddy Phenonemon)

Dating
  • Thursday, March 29 2007 @ 09:47 pm
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The Sugar Daddy Sugar Baby relationship has for many years been regarded as a source of amusement to those who have never experienced the benefit. Yes, everyone loves to be spoiled and pampered, but is it really necessary to include the age gap as part of the package?

It's true to say that many young men, on reaching the age in their lives when pubescence takes control of their lateral thinking, find themselves fantasizing about older females, often twice their own age and upwards. For instance it's quite common for young men still at school age, testosterone flying everywhere, to have the 'hots' for one or more of their female teachers, neighbor's wife or even a pal's mother.

The consensus of opinion reached by many is that the attraction by a young male to a more mature woman is based around the fact that she has experience.. a working knowledge of the male anatomy, and a sexual prowess not to be discovered so easily in a younger woman his own age.

Although there are exceptions, in the majority of cases, his secret lusting remains just that, and goes unnoticed by the older female who still regards him as a young student or friend of her son.

However, as the young male grows older, and gains his own level of experience, so his desire for the mature female wanes, and on reaching middle age, will frequently have his head 'turned' by a much younger woman.

All this is in stark contrast to the attraction patterns noted in the life of the female of the species. Whereas the young girl, on first becoming sexually aware, will hone her intimacy skill on the younger male, but she will often be less interested in him as she gets older, turning her attention to the more mature men that cross her path. But why is this the case?

The Sugar Daddy Phenomenon, whilst oftentimes the source of amusement for some, can in fact develop into quite a powerful relationship, with loyalty, romance and chivalry being key factors in the union. Many women note that a guy around her own age or younger, will not show her the same level of respect, or pay as much attention to detail that his older counterpart will be inclined to show her.

It's a valid point that women are more mature than men at any given age, and its not surprising that by the time she reaches her mid-thirties, she already feels more compatible with a male ten or twenty years her senior, and left guys her own age, far behind both mentally and emotionally. Her more mature partner is more equipped to seduce her mind as well as her body. He will be less afraid of displaying public affection, holding her hand or opening doors for her. Happy to allow the whole world see how proud he is to be by her side.

Sexually too, he may not be an athlete between the sheets, yet he will feel the need to ensure his girl is pleasured well as a priority over seeking to satisfy his own desires. Her younger lover will no doubt give her "the best seventeen seconds she's ever had", before raiding her fridge in search of a beer. Whereas in the case of her older guy, the foreplay will begin in the restaurant with witty flirting, eye contact and laughter. Later they will enjoy the afterglow together, the passion may have subsided but the emotion still very much alive.

The term 'Sugar Daddy' was first used in the early 1920's and is described in the WordWeb Dictionary as "A wealthy older man who gives a young person expensive gifts in return for friendship or intimacy". The sugar in this term alluded to the sweetening role of the gifts, and daddy to the age difference between the pair. There is no mention of love, romance or indeed a relationship in the dictionary description of the term, yet it is a fact that women are often attracted, even turned on by men of substance or power. Is it so inconceivable then, that a younger woman could find happiness in a relationship with a guy old enough to be her father, who has so much more to offer her than money and gifts?

The Blackberry Approach to Love

Relationships
  • Thursday, March 22 2007 @ 04:49 pm
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Good organization skills can help you get ahead in the workplace. But can those same skills help you get serious in your dating life, leading you to find "The One?"

Take this awkward but handy analogy. First there's the sales guy. He has indexed and categorized every person he's ever met in his shiny new iPhone and cross-checked for sales goals and compatibility issues in his handy Franklin planner.

Compare him with the guy who wanders in off the street with only a vague idea what he's looking to accomplish, the back seat of his car littered with the business cards of a random smattering of people he's met in the last two years.

Who is likely to be more successful?

Most of us believe that organizing helps when it comes to accomplishing our work goals, but when it comes to romance, lots of us are far more inclined to go with the flow.

Can organizing your personal life really help you be more efficient when it comes to finding love?

Liz Keim, a consultant for the American Society for Quality, teaches a seminar called Zero-Defect Dating. She says, "There's something called the 80/20 principle that applies whether you're analyzing company sales or your approach to finding a good relationship.

BE A ST. PATRICK'S DAY LOVER!

Holidays
  • Tuesday, March 06 2007 @ 05:34 am
  • Contributed by: Anonymous
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The time has come to celebrate our Irish roots once again! Don't have Irish roots? Celebrate them anyway! Come drink a pint of beer or two and enjoy some corned beef (we'll call the cabbage optional). Whether you are a man or woman, there are lots of ways to put on your Irish game face and have some sexy fun on Saint Patty's Day.

For Men

  • If you want your lady to dress up, maybe you should start it. Buy her the sexy green negligee you want her to wear, and pick up a pair of sexy green undies for yourself as well.
  • If you can cook at all, learn how to prepare an Irish feast. Bonus points if you cook naked, or wearing only an apron.

For Women

  • Buy a sexy green dress and flaunt it for him. You know he wants you!
  • Color your down-there hair green for a sexy surprise that will have him laughing, or paint a shamrock somewhere naughty for him to find.
  • Actually wear the green negligee he bought you. He did go to all that effort!

For Couples

  • Some whipped cream in a bowl and some green food dye makes body paint. Write sexy messages on each other's bodies, or just take turns drawing shamrocks and licking them off. Be careful around the face, though, as the dye might sometimes stick around for a few days.
  • Put on some Irish music and listen to it together. If you like it, enjoy it, and if not, well, enjoy making fun of it as a couple.
  • Four words: Kiss me, I'm Irish!
  • Some Irish whiskey or some delicious gourmet chocolates might be just the thing to loosen you up for the evening.
  • Kiss every time you see a shamrock!

With these tips and tricks and a little effort and creativity on your part, you can make this Saint Patrick's Day one that is full of sex and romance for the both of you. Get back to your roots and have a little fun as well, and you will have a great day for the both of you to remember.

If you really love the way that this year turns out, you can even turn Saint Patrick's Day into a romantic tradition for the both of you!

eHarmony's Online Alternatice to Marriage Counseling

Marriage
  • Sunday, December 31 2006 @ 11:03 am
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Here's an interesting twist from eHarmony,

eHarmony Marriage

This online service is almost a year old and is designed to help couples achieve stronger, healthier and happier marriages. It is built around the idea of marriage wellness, every marriage needs a small amount of ongoing care to thrive and grow. Underscoring its commitment to building happy and lasting relationships, this marriage wellness service helps marriages flourish by empowering couples with the knowledge and tools to build a deepened sense of understanding, appreciation and connectedness.

There are a couple of programs to choose from. The first one called Couple Marriage Profile offers a customized marriage report based on a questionnaire you fill out as well as a positive, non critical assessment on how to improve your marriage. The second program called Couple Marriage Complete offers more, such as a guide book and online videos. There is a free trial and eHarmony does offer a 30 day money back guarantee if you don't see any improvements.

I haven't tried these programs so I can't personally recommend them but eHarmony has helped countless singles in the online world so I am sure they are on the right track with eHarmony Marriage. You can get more information on this service at eHarmony Marriage. For more information on eHarmony Dating see are eHarmony Review.

Holiday Gifting Blunders to Avoid

Holidays
  • Thursday, December 21 2006 @ 07:31 pm
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It's been drummed into us since an early age that when it comes to gifts, 'It's the thought that counts'. Wrong! Sometimes the only thing you can think when presented with a weird (or weirdly inappropriate) gift, is "What the heck were they thinking?"

Here's a look at some all-too-common holiday gift giving blunders and what your sweetie really thought of your selection despite that strained smile on his/her face.

You Gave Her: Kitchen Gadgets

Where you went wrong : Sure you might have heard your girlfriend complain a million times about needing this thingy or that doodad in the kitchen, but guys, this was not your cue to whip out to a housewares store and buy her a new-fangled silicon oven mitt or any other kind of kitchen gadget. "I love anything to do with cooking, but it's the last thing I want to get as a gift from a lover. How dull," says Tessa. Buying her something she needs , especially of a domestic nature, is tantamount to telling her to get back in the kitchen and bake you a pie.

You Gave Him: A Subtle Hint

Where you went wrong : Girls, all guys want is for you to love and appreciate them -- as they are. Why, then, would you go and ruin Christmas with a gift that shouts 'I want to change you!' Yes, he was speechless when you handed him that voucher for a full back wax -- but the look wasn't gratitude, it was horror. "My girlfriend once gave me a gift voucher for a facial. Yeah, I went along and yeah, I kind of enjoyed it. But what was I supposed to tell my friends? It was pretty embarrassing," admits Adrian.

You Gave Her: Health or Fitness Products

Where you went wrong : There was only one thought running through your lady's head as she unwrapped this stealth bomb on Christmas morning -- and it wasn't 'My, what a thoughtful gift.' Guys, no matter how 'into' health or well-being your loved one is, a giving a fitness DVD, workout gear or anything at all to do with weight loss is gift-giving kiss of death. "An ex once gave me a meditation CD saying that he thought it might help. Might help what?" says Carla.

You Gave Him: Underwear

Where you went wrong : If you gave your man a six-pack of tube socks and some boxers this Christmas, you've basically ensured he will never find you sexually attractive ever again. Why? Because for him, socks and underwear are eternally associated with Mom. And now, at least in his mind, that's what you've become. "Socks and undies are probably the most unoriginal present ever. But hey, at least then I don't have to buy them myself," says Alex.

You Gave Her: Lingerie

Where you went wrong : Unless your partner explicitly pointed out/tried on and loved a particular lingerie ensemble, whatever you selected was wrong, wrong, wrong. Wrong size? She felt like you didn't know her at all. Wrong style? She wondered whether you thought she was too trampy. Or not trampy enough. "My boyfriend always misses the mark when he buys me underwear. I just tell him it didn't fit properly, then swap it for something I really like," says Lisa. Next time, if you must buy lingerie, give her a gift certificate to an expensive underwear store and offer to go shopping with her. That way you both win.

You Gave Him: Fancy Clothes

Where you went wrong : Upgrading your man's wardrobe under the guise of giving him a gift sends him into a spiral of self-doubt. He wasn't thinking "What a stylish piece," when he unwrapped the Burberry shirt you gave him. He was thinking, 'I don't earn enough.' "This one girl I dated was always buying me T-shirts with logos plastered across them. I hate wearing labels -- I guess she didn't really know me that well," says Warren.

If you spotted yourself --- or your sweetie -- on this list, console yourself with this notion: there's always next year.

Top Ten - Online Dating Benefits

Tips
  • Wednesday, December 13 2006 @ 01:16 pm
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Welcome to another article in our top ten series. The focus of this dating service article will be on the benefits of online dating when compared to dating in the traditional sense.

  1. Cheaper - Before online dating, most singles went to a a bar or dance club to try and meet other singles. While this is fun, it is a hard way for a lot of people to meet someone. To succeed this way you need an outgoing personality. Plus, you do not get an accurate representation of meeting someone new in a noisy, busy environment. For the cost of going out for a single night (taxi, drinks, food, etc...) you could get at least a 6 month membership on most popular dating sites.
  2. Faster - Meeting someone online is a lot faster than traditional dating. Just login to your online dating site and perform a few simple searches to bring up your potential matches. From here, if they are online, try sending them an instant message request or your could write a personal email that is tailored to the individual.
  3. Dating Safety - This is important. When using your typical dating site, all mail and communication remains anonymous. This means that the person you are communicating with will know your screen name (nick name) but will not know your real name, phone number and address until you decided when and if this is the right person to give this information too.
  4. Dating Site Security - Say you started mailing or chatting to someone online and you found out he or she turned out to be a real pain and now they will not leave you alone. In online dating this is not a major problem. Most dating sites allow you to block members from appearing in your search results, sending you mail and chatting to you. This is usually as easy as clicking on the block button that appears next to their name in the search results or on their profile detail page. If you need too, you can always go a step further and report them to the dating site customer support.
  5. The Number of Singles - When using an online dating service you have access to potentially millions of singles from your home computer. It all depends on your search criteria and how far you are willing to travel.
  6. Initiating Contact - It is easier to send a carefully composed email than walking up to someone to initiate contact at a bar. Plus, you know when the person is reading your mail he or she is actively looking to meet someone online.
  7. Get to know the person - With a reasonable degree of accuracy you have a great deal of information about the person instantly. You will have such information as their interests, location, education, description and most likely a photo. Plus, you will have such deal breaker details such as if the person is interested in having children, if they smoke and their religious preferences. This type of information hardly ever comes up in the first few times of meeting new people using traditional dating methods. You also get to communicate with this person remotely as long as you want until you decide if you want to go on a date.
  8. Everyone is Available - Who joins a dating service unless they want to meet someone. Going out to a bar or a club to meet singles for dating can be successful but most likely less than half the people at these places are there to meet someone to create a relationship. They may be there just for a good time with their friends.
  9. Meeting New People - With dating online meeting new people is a snap. If you find yourself always dating the same type of people and it's not working out, online dating allows you to easily search for people with different interests and personalities, who says opposites attract!
  10. Rejection - Face to face rejection is hard. In online dating a simple email stating "No, I am not interested." is a lot easier to receive plus it is expected that not all the profiles you mail may be interested in you. These dating site members may already be talking to someone or possibly something in your profile may have not interested them .

When you use online dating correctly and with all the benefits listed here, you will almost always succeed in finding someone to date and maybe share the rest of your life together.

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