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Match.com Celebrates ‘Love With No Filter’

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We know we shouldn’t compare ourselves to what we see on social media. Everything, from the poreless skin to the sunsets over pristine beaches, is edited and carefully curated. But despite our better judgement, we can’t help feeling envious when we see travelers on picturesque getaways and fashion influencers posing in their flawlessly organized closets.

This compulsion to measure our real lives against the heavily filtered lives we see on social media now extends to our relationships. Twitter, Facebook and Instagram are littered with images of #couplegoals that make it easy to draw comparisons to our own relationships and give us unrealistic perceptions of love. According to a survey from Match.com, one third of couples feel their relationship is inadequate after scrolling through snaps of seemingly-perfect partners plastered across social media.

Don’t Feel Attracted to Your Partner? These 10 Tips Will Help You!

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At the very beginning of the relationship, both partners are sexually attracted to one another. You can’t keep your hands off one another and connection between you two is almost palpable. In time, it seems like attraction and passion slightly decrease. Do you feel the same? Don’t worry; most people in long relationships deal with this problem. Just because one or both partners feel there is no attraction to the other person it doesn’t mean your relationship is over. Here are ten useful tips that can help you.

1. Redefine attraction

Probably one of the most common reasons why people feel like they aren’t attracted to their partner anymore is failing to accept the relationship changes. You want to stay in that “honeymoon” stage of relationship forever, but it doesn’t work that way. The more you get to know one another, the more your relationship changes and it’s not a bad thing.

As your relationship lasts longer and makes a progress, it becomes more meaningful. You get to know each other’s personality, not just your body. When you feel like sexual attraction is fading away, instead of giving up try to redefine it. What does this mean, exactly? Real sexual attraction doesn’t always have to be about physical appearance, it’s about a person you see when all of the pretenses fade away. Focus on your partner’s soul rather than superficial beauty and trivial things. Redefining attraction doesn’t happen out of blue, but with a little bit of consistency, you can do it. You can redefine attraction based on some of your criteria as well.

A Scary Step That Every Man Must Take For Love

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Flashback: remember that classic movie moment when Indiana Jones arrives at the cliff in his search for the Holy Grail? To complete his quest, Indy has to step off, blindly and unquestioningly.

Clearly, stepping off that nice, safe ledge doesn’t seem to be in his best interest (though it may be in ours... did you see “Kingdom Of the Crystal Skull”? Not good.)

Indy is facing a challenge that requires him to go against every instinct for his immediate safety and well-being… that he take a literal “leap of faith” to achieve his goal. And, when it comes to overcoming the biggest obstacle facing most men on the quest for love, same thing goes...

That obstacle is the idea of SACRIFICE.

New Study Finds almost Half of American Singles Prefer to Meet IRL, Not Over an App

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Most everyone in America has heard of Tinder, even if they haven’t used it. Many more swipe-friendly dating apps have followed in its popular wake, but still, singles are finding the dating app scene to be a little daunting, more than a little tiring, and would just like to meet someone more organically.

A new study by YouGov Omnibus found that almost half of American singles would prefer to meet a romantic partner in real life rather than through an app like Tinder. According to the study, even Millennials – the generation that brought online dating into the mainstream – prefer to meet potential dates at a bar, coffee shop, or even being set up by friends and family members over swiping right on a dating app.

Researchers surveyed over 1000 single Americans across the U.S. to find out how many have been set up on a date by friends or family, how many would like to be set up again, and how many would rather meet online.

How to Find Love This Fall

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Summer is officially behind us (except for those of you in the southern hemisphere), which means the start of the holiday season. And while you might be missing those warm nights, there’s a good chance your love life will improve in the new season.

Autumn has been proven to be the season for finding lasting love, whether it’s because people are socializing more, or the rush and romance of the holidays, or the fact that cold nights by the fire inspire romantic notions. To help you get a jump start this season, dating site Match has put together a few statistics about the best ways to find love, based on its annual survey of thousands of people in the US, called Singles in America.

First of all, Match encourages you to give love a real chance, and not to expect instant chemistry to lead to a long-term romance. In fact, Match found that a majority of daters – 59% of men and women – do not expect to feel chemistry until the second date, and 35% reported they have fallen deeply in love with someone they didn’t initially find attractive.

Let’s let this settle a moment: 35% of survey respondents admitted they have fallen in love with someone they weren’t initially attracted to. This goes against many romantic stories we have been told of love at first sight, and it’s also heartening to know that chemistry builds over time.

Here’s some advice Match shared about what works and what doesn’t on a first date, to help you get to the second date where the real magic can happen:

4 Hard Love Lessons Everyone Must Learn

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Love doesn’t come with a textbook. There are no rubrics or cheat sheets. And it definitely doesn’t look like what you see in the movies.

Modern dating is complex and constantly evolving. Relationships are not easy to build and maintain, but they never were. Love comes in many guises - some readily recognizable, some not.

Forget what you know from Twilight. Unrealistic expectations can kill a relationship before it even starts. The reality? It isn’t always pretty, but it’s all we’ve got. These 4 life lessons may not be easy to learn, but they’re essential to lasting love.