Relationships

Do want to know how to make your transition back into dating easier? Try the following steps:

• Boost Self-Esteem - It is a lot easier to attract someone if you also find yourself attractive inside and out.
• Be Proactive - Create your own opportunities. Join some online dating sites, single groups or take that offer from your friend that has the "perfect date" for you.
• Find Fun Friends - Ask family and friends if they have anyone they could put you in touch with who is single.
• Take it Slowly - Be aware of your vulnerabilities. Go on double dates to help build confidence.
• Not Dating, Socializing - Relax and try not to make dating a stressful situation for you.
• Be Honest - Try to be honest with yourself, friends and family about the person you are dating. Don't build the person up in your mind.
• Be Considerate - When you start to date make sure you (and your family) are over your previous relationship.

For the full story and more points on getting back into dating, read the Herald Sun.

Looks like this post is a week late. From September 20 until the 26 in 2009 it was National Singles Week. In the 1980s, the Buckeye Singles Council of Ohio started this observance which falls on the third full week of September. It was started to

... acknowledge that many unmarried Americans do not identify with the word “single” because they are parents, have partners or are widowed.

Here are some recent interesting facts and statistics on singles in America:

• There are now 95.9 million unmarried people in the U.S. who are 18 years or older. This makes up 43 percent of all adults. (from 2008)
• 53 percent of these singles are women
• 61 percent of these singles never have been married before. 24 percent have been divorced and a further 15 percent were widowed.
• Seniors (65+) account for 15.8 million of adult singles which 16 percent having never been married.
• 11.6 million of adult singles are parents living with their children, 9.8 million are women.

For the full fact sheet on the Unmarried and Single Americans Week, visit the U.S. Census Bureau.

I had a client come to me recently with a very boring profile. His profile said absolutely nothing. In his initial email to me he said, "This online dating thing sucks! I'm not getting any results!" When I checked his profile, the story told itself. Or rather, it didn't.

When I asked him about his profile, he said that he just didn't know what to say about himself. Moreover, he was worried about tooting his own horn or seeming like he was full of himself. He was a nice guy, he said, and this lack of results he was seeing was obviously because women only like jerks and he was destined to end last.

As nice dating coaches do, I talked him down and then we began to chat about him, his job, his hobbies and interests, and the type of woman he was interested in attracting. Turns out, he had a lot of great things about him that hadn't made his original profile. He had a fascinating job, volunteered for several local groups, and was a talented classical pianist who played dinner parties and weddings every weekend. He was really a catch, but none of this was in his profile.

When I rewrote his profile to include these things, he was shocked. "This is me... but... it's like... I would date me now!" he stammered. "How did you do it?"

"It's easy," I grinned. "I don't have your self-consciousness."

As a dating profile writer, my job is to write a profile that best markets you to the type of people you're interested in dating. I promote your best points and make you sound great!

When you write your own profile, you need to step back a bit out of yourself. See yourself as a marketer sees a product - what do you bring to the table that's interesting, cool, or unique? Don't be afraid to write about yourself and toot your horn a little bit - as long as it's true, it's worth including in your profile!

According to eHarmony's official blog, The Newlywed Game is looking for couples of all ages who may be interested in being on the show, which appears on The Game Show Network. Taping of this season of the show would happen in September and October of 2009.

This new iteration of The Newlywed Game is sponsored by eHarmony and is hosted by Carnie Wilson. The show allows couples to compete against each other by being asked questions on how well they know their spouse. This is the second season of the show with the first being aired back in April, 2009 (see Story).

For more information and for you and your spouse to be considered as contestants please email: thenewlywedgame@embassyrow.com to apply. The Game Show Network would like you to include the following information in your email:

• Names and ages (you and your spouse).
• Your City/State and phone number wwith area code.
• Email Address.
• Your Wedding Date, and a photo.
• If you met on eHarmony.

All participants of the show must be 18 years of age or older and married 2 years or less by October 9th, 2009.

For more information on the dating site, read our eHarmony review.

It seems that the dating site Shaadi.com is becoming fairly popular with British Asian singles. The Guardian in the UK wrote an article about the dating site and included several success stories and a few not so successful ones. No dating site is perfect and when I see a article written which includes information about what the site may be lacking or has problems with I tend to give it more weight than a story that is all positive.

Shaadi.com now claims 15 million people have signed up for their service since the website launched in 1997. Currently they have 5 million members using the site at any given time which generates about 300 million page views every month and 6,000 new profiles a day. This dating site:

is tailored to the typical criteria of traditional matchmakers, with questions about family values (traditional, moderate or liberal), profession and even complexion.

Shaadi's search engine allows members to be incredibly detailed about the type of person they wish to find or be matched with.

To find out more about this India dating and matrimonial website, read our review of Shaadi.com.

A press release from Chemistry highlights the fact their chief scientific advisor Dr. Helen Fisher, has determined through research that success in the bedroom may lead to a more rewarding career. In a study she did using data from 40,000 Chemistry members where 56 percent were woman and the average age was 27, Dr. Fisher found:

... increased sexual activity may lead to an improvement in problem-solving, confidence and teamwork.

These skills may see improvements due to the fact of the chemicals which are released in the human body during sexual activities. As example, sex increases testosterone which has been linked to self confidence. The rush some people feel during sex is due to Dopamine, which has been linked to improved creativity. After sex both women and men receive a boost of Oxytocin and Vasopressin. These chemicals generate trust and attachment. These personality traits are all tied to how well you succeed in life, therefore a person who excels in all of these personality traits most likely will have a successful career as well.

To find out more about the dating site Dr. Helen Fisher represents, check out our Chemistry review.