3 Ways To Spring Clean Your Online Dating Profile

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  • Tuesday, April 21 2015 @ 06:31 am
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Your home isn't the only thing that could use a spring cleaning. While your home was collecting clutter and dust over the cold winter months, your online dating profile was doing exactly the same thing.

Metaphorically speaking, that is, unless for some reason you've left your laptop open and untouched since December.

Either way, your online dating profile is in need of an update and spring is the perfect time. Try the following tweaks:

  1. Add new interests. Odds are, you've changed since you first wrote your profile. You may have picked up a new hobby or dropped an old one during that time, meaning your profile is no longer an accurate representation of who you are. Comb through it to take out anything you aren't into and add anything new you've picked up. It's especially important to note activities you would enjoy doing with someone else, hint hint.
  2. Refresh your photos. Those pictures you put up 5 years ago when you first joined the site? Delete them. The first reason is obvious: you may not look like that any more. You would be disappointed to meet someone in person who looked nothing like their photos, so don't do the same to others. The second reason might be less obvious: new photos make you look like a new addition to the site. Potential dates who have seen your photos before will pass straight over you, but post new pictures and you may suddenly generate a wave of new interest.
  3. Expand your parameters. Give yourself the best opportunity to meet someone interesting by expanding your search. You think you have a “type” and perhaps you have a long list of deal breakers to go along with it, but being too specific is limiting. Look back on your online dating history. Have you been chasing after the same person with different names (and disappointing results)? If you've been fishing in that pond for a long time, it's time to find a new pond. Date possibilities will skyrocket once you venture out of your original comfort zone.

If none of that is drastic enough to suit your tastes, there's another option for your adventurous soul: rewrite your profile entirely. Scrap it all and start again. It's guaranteed to be a more up-to-date picture of who you are, and a revamped profile may even attract people who previously passed you over.

Your spring can't get any cleaner than that.

These Are The Best Places For A First Date, According To Dating App Clover

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  • Monday, April 20 2015 @ 06:54 am
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Dating is basically one long exercise in uncertainty and second-guessing.

First you have to talk to someone, which can be scary for all kinds of obvious reasons. Then you have to actually ask them on a date, which... ditto. Then you have to figure out where to have that date, then you have to actually go on the date, and... you get the picture.

But there is some good news. It doesn't all have to be hard. If you've been wondering what the best places for a first date are, dating app Clover has some answers for you. Clover analyzed data from 200,000 of its users to find out where people like to go on first dates and put their findings in an infographic.

It turns out Clover users are creatures of habit. The list is filled with chains – from coffee shops, to fast food joints, to casual restaurants. At the top of the list (probably not surprising anyone) is Starbucks, which proved to be both the most popular first date site of all and also a high scorer with all three age groups surveyed (18 to 24, 25 to 34, and 35-plus).

Rounding out the top ten are Chipotle, Panera Bread, The Cheesecake Factory, Texas Roadhouse, Buffalo Wild Wings, Olive Garden, Chili's, In-N-Out and, in the 10th spot, Applebee's. Could you feel your arteries harden as you read that?

“We were surprised to see most people choosing to meet at coffee shops and casual restaurants for their first dates,” said Clover CEO Isaac Raichyk in a press release. “We expected fine dining, bars, and nightclubs to rank much higher, but clearly people want to meet in a relaxed environment.”

To which I say – duh. There's an insane amount of pressure on a first date to begin with, why make it worse with a pricey steak dinner? It's not at all surprising that people prefer comfortable, familiar, low-stress places for first dates.

Perhaps slightly more surprising is the fact that no one seems to think bars are good first date options. It seems like a logical choice, but both men and women put it as their least-preferred option. Instead men favored restaurants while women favored coffee shops.

Getting roaring drunk on a first date is never a good idea, so it makes sense to put bars last. As to the gender divide between restaurants and coffee shops, Bustle speculated that men choose bigger restaurants because they want to impress their dates, while women opt for coffee because it's low-key and easy to cut short if a date isn't going well.

eVow Closes

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  • Sunday, April 19 2015 @ 12:00 pm
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Almost 5 years ago Plenty of Fish Media launched eVow, and as of April 17 we were informed that the dating service appears to have been closed. The dating apps have been removed from iTunes and Google Play, and the website now redirects to POF.com. Plenty of Fish Media has not release an official statement about these changes but with the service now being completely inaccessible I think it is safe to assume that it has been shut down.

eVow was design to compete with dating sites that specialized in long-term relationships (like eHarmony). With the advertisement might of POF behind it in the beginning eVow quickly grew and was a popular choice for singles. Unfortunately after 5 years and intense completion in the dating sector eVow was not able to sustain itself without relying on the free advertising it received on the Plenty of Fish dating site. eVow must not have been making enough money through memberships and advertisements to justify the cost of taking up advertisement spots on POF (which other advertisers would pay money for).

I think one of the problems eVow ran into is that it also competed with their sister service POF.com. While POF doesn't cater to only long-term relationships, it does have the Chemistry Predictor matchmaking system which does attempt to match single together based on personality types to which is a key ingredient in long term relationships. A lot of members of POF looking for long-term relationships obviously didn't feel the need to move to eVow since POF was meeting their needs.

It's too bad eVow had to close down. The dating service had a lot of good ideas. Unfortunately the dating industry is intensely competitive and most dating services will not survive more than a few years.

Coffee Meets Bagel Goes International

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  • Friday, April 17 2015 @ 06:46 am
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Dating app Coffee Meets Bagel has taken a back seat to the spectacular rise of Tinder the past few years. This however has not daunted the company’s founders, three sisters who left their cushy corporate jobs to fulfill their entrepreneurial dreams. (Not to mention, they wanted to create a dating app that they would like to use!)

Now, the company has taken its carefully executed roll-out in the U.S. and is expanding internationally. Hong Kong was the first place outside of the U.S. where the service was launched.

CMB takes its operations seriously. Instead of giving in to the “more is more” trend in dating - offering unlimited looks at profiles and encouraging users to choose “yes” or “no” in a matter of seconds – this dating app offers users one match per day. And you have 24 hours to mull it over, choosing to like or pass. If you like, you have a week to make a real date happen through the app’s private chat line, or it’s on to the next. In other words, it forces users to carefully consider and follow through, instead of swiping at will and sending a few messages that never lead to a date.

Facebook is a key platform in spreading interest in the app overseas, since Hong Kong users (according to a recent article in Forbes) have an average of 768 Facebook friends each, eight times the worldwide standard. Also, Hong Kong is a highly social city, although people spend more time at work than they do trying to meet people to date. It made for the perfect place to launch the dating app’s international roll-out.

Co-Founder Dawoon Kang lived in Hong Kong for three years, experiencing the dating scene for herself. (She and her current boyfriend met over CMB). “Hong Kong is a very young, vibrant city full of ambitious singles in their 20s and 30s who are eager to meet new people but have very little time for it. Coffee Meets Bagel was designed with these young professionals in mind, which made Hong Kong our perfect market – and our initial results show that,” she told Forbes.

On average, Hong Kong users are logging in 4.3 times per day (33% more than U.S. members), and 72% log in each day to check their matches. Like in the U.S., more CMB members are female – 62% of the Hong Kong user base are women, although there are more single men overall in China.

The service launched in Hong Kong on March 4th, and before the month was over, the company had made 3,000 connections. According to Kang, CMB has also achieved consistent 20 percent week on week growth.

Tinder announces spam is down 90%

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  • Thursday, April 16 2015 @ 06:39 am
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Have you ever swiped right on a Tinder match only to discover her profile isn’t real? Since the famous dating app partnered with mobile identity company TeleSign, it claims spam is down as much as 90%.

Spam has been a growing problem for Tinder– prostitutes masquerading as potential love matches eager to sell their services, hackers using the dating app to obtain valuable user information, and even companies like The Gap aiming to capitalize on the 18-25 market with clever marketing campaigns. (Last month they set up their campaign ads as Tinder user profiles without explicit permission from the company – and were asked to take them down.) Also, there was the incident of a hacker tinkering with their API to match straight men with other straight men, which ended up confusing and embarrassing a lot of users.

Even though Tinder verifies people through their Facebook accounts, many people have become adept at creating fake social media accounts, too. So Tinder’s new deal with Telesign seems to be alleviating the problem.

Telesign works by analyzing massive amounts of real-time and historical data on phone numbers, including associated contact information, phone types, geographies, and carriers. Their technology uses PhoneID verification to determine how potentially risky a phone number is, and whether the number really belongs to the person creating the account. If the score is high (meaning high risk), the user is blocked. Telesign also recommended that Tinder implement rate limits. This means that Tinder can set a limit for the number of accounts created using the same phone number. The companies did not say whether the analyzed information from Tinder users is kept private, or how it could be used by TeleSign or Tinder.

Ryan Ogle, Tinder’s CTO said in a statement: “Once we had TeleSign in place, we were able to block fraudulent accounts in a much more sophisticated way. It’s been 100 percent accurate and we’ve seen about a 90 percent reduction in spam traffic as a result, from day one.”

Tinder has taken other steps to cut back on spammers, including limiting the amount of swipes people can do in a 24-hour period with the free service. If they want to swipe indefinitely (as spam bots often do), they will have to pay for Tinder Plus.

This is another big step for the company, which seems to be making significant changes in recent months. IAC, the parent company of Tinder, has brought in a new CEO, and in March, Tinder rolled out its first paid service, Tinder Plus.

Check out our review of Tinder for more information on this popular dating app.

Seeing Familiar Faces on Tinder? Here’s Why.

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  • Monday, April 13 2015 @ 06:36 am
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A recent article in The Daily Beast brought up a question that has floated around the online dating community for a while – that is, how do you handle seeing someone you know on an online dating site or app?

For example, have you ever been matched with a co-worker on OkCupid? Or with an ex boyfriend on Hinge? Or with your engaged friend on Grindr? Or even your sister on Tinder? (Yes, this has happened to a few daters.)

Many people have experienced this strange mingling of their real lives and their online dating personas, but have different emotional reactions. While some might be mortified to be matched with a client or co-worker, others take it in stride as part of the online dating experience. Chances are, you are eventually going to run into someone you know if you swipe long enough. So the question becomes: how do you handle it?

In the case of being matched in a potentially awkward situation (say, with your co-worker), would you swipe right out of acknowledgment that you know each other (and the other person has probably already seen your profile on the dating app)? Does this send a confusing signal since you aren't interested? Or would you swipe left and hope that neither one of you brings it up at the next staff meeting?

While online dating might seem like meeting endless random strangers, it really is a lot closer to your existing circles than you might suppose. In the case of co-workers, it might be a good idea to decide what makes you more comfortable – having a good laugh about matching with each other at the next staff meeting, or swiping left and pretending you never saw each other on Tinder in the first place.

Dating apps are making it easier to reject potential matches without the other person knowing if you’ve even seen their profile. If you swipe left, the other person isn’t alerted – they just won’t be able to view your profile. The potentially awkward situation results from that person swiping right before you have had a chance to swipe left.

Some dating apps are addressing this problem by allowing users to filter out people they know in advance of being matched. OkCupid is rolling out some new features by the summer, one of which allows users to hide their profile by default, only to be seen by someone they actively “like” or message. OkCupid users will also have the option of using a Facebook account to block any of their friends that are also on OkCupid.

But does the real problem lie in potentially being matched with a client or your ex, or is it that people you know can see that you are single and looking for someone online? As far as we’ve come with accepting online dating, people can’t seem to get past its stigma. Maybe it’s time we all agree that our world is getting smaller with technology, and now is the time to accept our connectedness. After all, maybe your co-worker is a good match.

Read our Tinder review for more information on this popular dating app.

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