Match Review (match.com)....I'm starting to think online dating is not for me at all

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Match Review (match.com)....I'm starting to think online dating is not for me at all
Authored by: Anonymous on Thursday, June 02 2016 @ 11:12 pm

I have been using Match for 2 months now, and have noticed after 3 weeks of free use (like many have stated here) I had several winks/likes every day. So I figured it was a good time to pay Match so I could see who liked me and I could start messaging women I was interested in.

My main obstacle with meeting someone through a picture and generic worded qualities (everyone on the site has the same values/interests but with a few different priorities in life) about someone is I have a hard time "getting to know/connecting" with someone through texts/emails. I know messaging is the first contact and after many messages between each other you have a pretty good gauge if the person is truthful or deceptive, but as a dating site I plan on meeting her if I'm interested. But apparently asking to meet someone in the first week of chatting is the equivalent of asking for sex or marriage on dating apps. Which I am not looking for on the first date, I have a hard time reading who a person actually is in messages which is why I'd rather meet the person and not waste time. We are either going to click or we are not. I can tell rather quickly in person, we could chat and have everything in the world in common, but if we don't click in real life with lots of awkward silence, (like I have to do all the talking or vice versa) or she's on her phone all night, or whatever is going to turn me off, it's probably not going to go far in the relationship. Might as well find out sooner than later.

I am not a super model, but am told by married/taken women in my age range how I am good looking and what a catch I would be to someone. In fact most women seemed shocked that I am single. I am 6'2", 205lbs, brown hair, blue eyes, have a good job and like to make people laugh. Not trying to talk myself up, just trying to paint a picture.

Another big reason I'm more comfortable meeting a person face to face rather than messaging. It feels too scripted as I find myself rewriting my messages multiple times sometimes due to over analyzing. I can usually learn more in one night about a person 1 on 1 being myself vs talking back and forth at random times whenever it's convenient for her or myself to respond. I don't want to sound like a complete douche, I do understand people are busy and I do understand why women are hesitant to meet in person, but I'm always flexible with that. I like adventurous first dates, but I usually ask the woman if she'd like to meet for happy hour, dinner, coffee or drinks....basically anywhere in a public area with lots of people.
(I get it, I could only imagine how some women feel about meeting after hearing some of their online dating stories. I am not like that, the reason I joined is because I am looking for something long term since my ex left me for my best friend...long nightmare of a story)
But as soon as I ask a woman and explain to her, ok we have some common interests & you sound like someone I'd want to get to know better, they make up some excuse not to meet or to postpone our date we agreed upon and our texts/emails become way less frequent too.

What is the point of talking back and forth like we're in 8th grade when I'm in my mid 30's and would like to go out with that person. I don't want to stay in and text/email just for her to be indecisive about whether or not they want to meet up. (Again, the reason I thought people joined Match was to date since it's more a long term dating site and less like a hook up site.) It is hard for me to meet new people now since I centered my life around my ex. Most of my remaining friends are married with children and work full time, just as most of their friends are too. So I won't be getting set up by them anytime soon.
The single friends I have are a little too crazy to go out and pick up women that I wouldn't want to date long term (my single friends usually scare the good ones off and leave me with the party type, which is fun for a night but they are usually the type that likes attention from more than just me at the bar.) I fear dating apps are not for me, but am kind of stuck using them unless I would like to go out by myself a lot or with my married friends, which is just as awkward especially if they have their kids with them.

Any suggestions from anyone? Or am I going to have to learn to be more patient and text for months at a time before it's appropriate to ask to meet them? Any thoughts would be appreciated thanks! If the pattern I'm seeing now keeps up I will be canceling my service with Match very soon. Sorry for the long post and thanks if you made it through my post!

Match Review (match.com)....I'm starting to think online dating is not for me at all
Authored by: Anonymous on Thursday, January 19 2017 @ 03:42 pm

If someone won't meet in person at a safe, public place, then they are either:

1. Too afraid to meet anyone, and you will never get to know them...
or
2. They are a scammer... and they will do their best to lie, cheat & steal your money, if you let them.

In either case, if they won't meet in person, then forget about them and meet the many, many good folks who will meet in person.

Good Luck!

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