How Reddit Can Help Your Love Life

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It has often been said that the Internet would be nothing without funny pictures of cats.

It sounds ridiculous, but as far as I'm concerned, it isn't far from the truth (or should I say "teh truth?"). Cats have become such an integral part of the World Wide Web experience that they can now determine your next date.

Yep, that's right...lolcats, and your other favorite Internet phenomena, can now be responsible for the future of your love life. Allow me to introduce you to your new favorite dating sites, all of which base your dates on your favorite subreddits and taste in Internet humor.

Reddit has spawned a wealth of redditor-created dating sites, like LaughMatch.com and 4.EverAlone.com. On LaughMatch, users watch a series of funny videos upon registering. After giving their reviews of humorous clips like a bad lip read of Twilight, the site matches members with dates based on where they placed the slider to rate the videos. A similar sense of humor is a solid foundation for any relationship, right?

4.everalone promises to match users based on their favorite subreddits. All new members provide an e-mail address, their reddit login info, and a list of their 5 favorite subreddits. The site's creator then searches the database to find another redditor with the same subreddit interests.

Another great idea came from yet another redditor, though the site is now no more. TalkOverTea eliminated one of online dating's biggest problems by implementing a very simple solution. The dating profile formula means that we all judge our dates long before we've ever even spoken to them - often solely by their pictures, because we never make it to the text.

TalkOverTea eradicated harmful and unfair prejudgments by turning the typical online dating process on its head. Instead of viewing a profile first and messaging later, TalkOverTea members began communicating first. The site engaged two users in conversation and then, over time, revealed tidbits of their profiles as the conversation continued. It's a refreshing approach to online dating that I wish had stuck around...perhaps one day it will return.

So far, it seems that the giant online dating sites are winning the battle for Web dominance, but I still hold out hope for the smaller, niche sites. In some ways they do a better job of replicating the way we connect in real life, since we often meet new people in locations or during activities based around a specific, shared interest.

What has your experience been? Have you had more success on small sites like these, or big sites like Match?

The 2012 Singles In America Report

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For the last three years, Match.com has compiled an annual review of singles' dating habits, sexual practices, and lifestyles. The 'Singles in America' study is the largest and most comprehensive of its kind, thanks to Match's massive user base. As the biggest online dating site in the world, Match has unprecedented access to info on the 1/3 of the U.S. population that is single.

The 2012 report debuts the inclusion of married individuals in the study, in order to gain a greater understanding of sex and love and to compare lifestyles and attitudes across a range of relationship statuses.

Highlights of the study include:

  • Friends with benefits is increasingly becoming a standard stop on the way to a relationship. 47% of singles have had a friends with benefits arrangement in the past (40% of women and 53% of men), with a dramatic year-over-year increase. And not only are they happening more frequently, they're also turning into serious relationships more than ever before.
  • But, although casual sex is on the rise, a greater number of American women are insisting on some kind of commitment before getting intimate with a new partner. Women are looking to wait until they're in an exclusive relationship before jumping into bed with someone (25% of single women in 2010, 31% in 2011, and 37% in 2012)
  • The struggling economy has been big news almost everywhere, but Americans' dating lives have remained largely untouched by the financial crisis. Nearly 2/3 of singles say they have not changed their dating habits during the last three years.
  • In news that will surprise very few of you, bars are out and the Web is in. Online dating sites are now the #1 place where singles meet, with almost 1/3 reporting that they dated someone they met online. 20% of singles say they met their most recent first date online, while only 7% say they met their newest date in a bar.

"As the leader in the online dating industry for almost two decades," said Mandy Ginsberg, CEO of Match.com, "gaining an even deeper knowledge of our audience - an incredibly influential segment of society - is invaluable to our business."

"Since its inception, Singles in America has proven to be an unprecedented source of insight into the ideologies and lifestyle choices of today's singles. Now in our third year with the study, we are identifying trends and compelling findings on everything from the prevalence of technology in the dating process to singles' sentiments about married life, as well as previously unstudied trend data."

Stay tuned for more on the study as new information is released. If you are interested in finding out more about this dating site which is extremely popular in the United States, you can take a look at our Match.com review.

The State Of Dating In America: The Keys To Commitment

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Meeting someone is only half the battle.

The story doesn't end when you find the magic profile that catches your eye. And let's be honest, the next part is just as confusing - if not more confusing - than the first part. A whole new set of questions arises the moment you decide to get more serious.

Should you have sex before marriage? Will your friends and family like your partner? Do their opinions even matter? And what makes a relationship last?

The State Of Dating In America report from ChristianMingle and JDate has the answers.

When asked "Would you have sex before marriage?"...

  • More than half of all singles say they would have sex before marriage without conditions.
  • Men are more likely to say they're comfortable with it.
  • Only 15% of singles say they would not have sex at all before marriage.
  • Younger singles are more likely to feel they need to be in love in order to have sex before marriage.
  • Singles in the 35- to 44-year-old range are least likely to feel that commitment is a prerequisite to sex.

The responses to "How much influence do the following individuals have on whom you date?" reveal that...

  • "Friends" and "Mother" are the most popular dating consultants for singles.
  • "Father" and "Siblings" are the next most popular.
  • "Pets" have a greater influence than "Other family!"
  • Men tend to turn to their mothers first, then their friends. Women tend to turn to their friends first, then their mothers.
  • Singles ages 18-34 are far more likely to let immediate family and friends influence who they date.

And when it comes to marriage...

  • Mothers have the greatest influence on who 18- to 24-year-olds will marry, followed by fathers and friends.
  • Overall, singles ages 45-59 are least likely to let outside forces influence who they will marry.

Believe it or not, there are no significant differences between men and women when it comes to the most important factors in a lasting commitment. Both agree that the keys to a successful relationship are:

  • Partner's family treats me well (92%)
  • Similar views on pets (89%)
  • Likes same activities (85%)
  • Similar political views (84%)
  • Similar views on smoking (84%)
  • Similar social habits (82%)
  • Same race/ethnicity (79%)
  • Same level of cleanliness (78%)
  • Same level of physical activity (74%)
  • Good sexual chemistry (72%)

Would anyone have guessed that pets have a greater influence over long-term relationships than good sex?!

The State Of Dating In America: What Do We Look For In A Mate?

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You try to be aloof. You try to act confident, mysterious, and detached. Online dating? It's no big deal. Who cares what people say they're looking for? You're not going to worry about it. You're just going to be yourself, and the date offers will roll in.

But secretly (ok, not so secretly), you're dying to know what potential dates are looking for. You're desperate to figure out exactly how to present yourself in your profile to attract the kind of people you're attracted to. Don't worry - you're not alone, and the State Of Dating In America report has a few answers to offer.

ChristianMingle and JDate asked "What do you find most attractive about the opposite sex?" and their users answered. Here's what they had to say...

For men:

  • Sense of humor: 19%
  • Physical appearance: 33%
  • Intelligence: 16%
  • Confidence: 12%
  • Integrity: 12%
  • Professional success: <3%
  • Domestic skills: 5%
  • Financial success: negligible

For women:

  • Sense of humor: 24%
  • Physical appearance: 21%
  • Intelligence: 16%
  • Confidence: 15%
  • Integrity: 16%
  • Professional success: 3%
  • Domestic skills: <5%
  • Financial success: negligible

Men and women may disagree about what the most attractive trait in a date is, but they don't disagree when it comes to another important characteristic. Both say that the most important characteristic in someone they did is shared interest. Women believe the next most important characteristics are someone who is funny, someone who is attractive, someone who is successful, and someone who is smart. Men rank the characteristics similarly, but give appearances more weight than women.

The sexes are not only clear on what they want in a mate, they're also clear on what they don't want.

Men say the worst traits in a mate are:

  • Greed: 30%
  • Sloth: 20%
  • Gluttony: 15%
  • Pride & Envy: tied at 11%
  • Wrath: 9%
  • Lust: 5%

Women say the seven deadly sins of dating are:

  • Greed: 34%
  • Wrath: 17%
  • Sloth: 13%
  • Pride: 12%
  • Gluttony: 10%
  • Lust: 8%
  • Envy: 6%

Even though men and women agree on many things, they still remain a mystery to each other in many ways. They are both thoroughly puzzled by the opposite sex's feelings on commitment, and confused about matters like their taste in "hot" men or women, how they spend their money, their eating and personal grooming habits, and the way they interact with their friends.

For more information about the dating sites which provided this data you can review our ChristianMingle.com and JDate.com reviews.

“Are You Interested?” Launches New Social Features

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"Are You Interested?" has a history of being on the cutting edge of innovation in the online dating industry. It was one of the first dating applications to launch on Facebook in 2007, and now has announced the arrival of several new social features designed to bring online dating and social networking together.

The updated AYI features include:

  • The ability to view mutual friends when looking for potential dates
  • The ability to search for singles through your friends
  • The option to search for singles with mutual or related interests

AYI hopes the new tools will make it easier for singles to connect online. As online dating shifts increasingly towards a "social dating" model, AYI's transition puts the site at the forefront of the movement.

What makes it especially unique is the influence AYI already had on the market: the service already claimed millions of Facebook users with Facebook-connected profiles, who were regularly active before the launch of the new features.

Facebook integration benefits users by creating a more robust experience and generating a significantly larger number of search results. Facebook-connected singles, who represent the majority of AYI users, have a greater chance of meaningful connections because shared interests and friends can be taken into account in the matching process.

SNAP Interactive, owner of AYI, CEO Clifford Lerner says, "AYI has always been a progressive and innovative dating site and we believe these social feature launches really raise the bar in the dating space. Historically, there has been a large disconnect between the way singles meet online versus in the real world. Offline, singles commonly meet through friends and interests. That same experience really hasn't been possible online - until now."

The goal for AYI, like many online dating services, is to revamp the industry so it more accurately replicates the way singles meet in real life. "Our deep integration into Facebook Platform," Lerner continues," coupled with the significant scale of our interest and social graph puts us in the unique position of being able to integrate friends and interests into online dating in a meaningful way. It also provides singles with an online dating experience that more closely mirrors the way singles traditionally meet in the real world."

AYI's new features, combined with the real-time updating of AYI user profiles using Facebook's Real-time API, shows that AYI will continue its history of innovation. With over 65 million installs on Facebook, it looks as though AYI will be a leader in the social dating scene for a long time.

eHarmony offers Free Communication April 12 to 16

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A eHarmony free communication weekend (FCW) is happening right now in the U.S. and Canada. It started today and runs to 11:59pm PST on Tuesday April 16th. No credit card is required and all members can communicate with their matches for free during this 5 day event.

If you want to take eHarmony for a test drive this 5 day FCW is worth checking out. You get to create a profile, review your matches and communicate with them all for free. This allows you to try out most of eHarmony’s services for no cost and it will give you a good idea of the type of matches you will receive and how the whole online dating process works at eHarmony. This dating site calculates your highly-compatible matches based on their algorithm which has years of research invested into it. The only things not included during this event is viewing photos, skip straight to mail and Secure Call.

eHarmony’s last free communication weekend happened in March (see Story). For further facts on this dating site you can read our detailed eHarmony review. Comments and user reviews are also available from this page.