Too Booked For Love
- Friday, August 20 2010 @ 09:11 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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When we're single, we spend a lot of time constructing an independent life. After all, no one wants to sit at home while they're waiting to find a significant other, right? So we fill up our social calendar with... everything else. We acquire a social life that does not need romance.
Then we meet someone. And to our shock and horror, we discover that the bustling social life, that shining example of independence that might have helped the person's attraction to you in the first place... it doesn't actually have room for romance. What do we do now? Some might ponder what rearranging their schedule might mean – are they rearranging their lives for someone else? Are they really that independent, then? Some might chuck the romance portion out altogether, deciding that, yes, they really are that independent, and really don't need romance.
And maybe they really are. But others may miss out on romance because they're simply too stubborn to allow a new person to disrupt their lives. See, imagine a significant other – one that you want to stay with forever, in one way or another. This is, quite literally, incorporating a new person into every aspect of your life, from your daily routine to your choices when you cook dinner. Sometimes it works smoothly; other times it's an adjustment. In any case, your life has moved from “single” to “party of two.” It is, literally, a different life.
Thinking for two instead of one is an adjustment, to be sure – but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. We don't have to lose ourselves when we make someone else important, and shuffling our social calendar a little doesn't mean we'll lose our sense of self. We shouldn't bide our time, treading water until we find someone; absolutely not. Still, when we do find someone, it's only polite to pencil them in.
Then we meet someone. And to our shock and horror, we discover that the bustling social life, that shining example of independence that might have helped the person's attraction to you in the first place... it doesn't actually have room for romance. What do we do now? Some might ponder what rearranging their schedule might mean – are they rearranging their lives for someone else? Are they really that independent, then? Some might chuck the romance portion out altogether, deciding that, yes, they really are that independent, and really don't need romance.
And maybe they really are. But others may miss out on romance because they're simply too stubborn to allow a new person to disrupt their lives. See, imagine a significant other – one that you want to stay with forever, in one way or another. This is, quite literally, incorporating a new person into every aspect of your life, from your daily routine to your choices when you cook dinner. Sometimes it works smoothly; other times it's an adjustment. In any case, your life has moved from “single” to “party of two.” It is, literally, a different life.
Thinking for two instead of one is an adjustment, to be sure – but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. We don't have to lose ourselves when we make someone else important, and shuffling our social calendar a little doesn't mean we'll lose our sense of self. We shouldn't bide our time, treading water until we find someone; absolutely not. Still, when we do find someone, it's only polite to pencil them in.
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