Online dating for those with STDs

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It's the gift that keeps on giving. Worse than an unwanted present from grandma, chances are that if you have an STD it's not going anywhere anytime soon. Is your romantic life over? Only if you choose to let it be over.

Join a site for other singles with STDs

There are plenty of dating sites out there that cater to singles with STDs. Everyone is positive for something, and usually they list what it is on their profile. Why not look for someone who understands what it's like to walk in your shoes? There's transparency from the start, so you don't have to have that awkward talk before things get serious. Everything's on the table.

Options if you join a regular dating site

  • Be upfront about your STD: Some people choose to come right out in their dating profile and mention their STD. They'd rather not be contacted by people who don't want to date someone with an STD. I can understand how that would be easier, in a way. Like being on a site for STD-positive singles, you maintain transparency and honesty so those who choose to date you know exactly what to expect. Possible complications: People who immediately rule you out even though they probably would have been a great match otherwise. People who choose to be nasty to you (rare, but it happens).
  • Don't mention your STD in your profile: On the other hand, we have singles who choose not to mention their STD up front. They'd rather get to know people and have "the talk" when (or if) it becomes necessary. Possible complications: Falling in love and then being dumped after "the talk."
  • Posting a photo: If you're being upfront about your STD in your profile, you may choose to not post a picture on your profile for privacy reasons, especially if your STD is not common knowledge in the community. In cases like this, it's preferable for you to change your headline to: "I have pictures and will send them when you email." If you choose to reveal your positive status once the relationship has reached a certain level of intimacy, then you can safely post a profile picture.

Having an STD doesn't mean that online dating is out of the question. Check out our review of Positive Singles for more about a dating site for singles with STDs.