How to Get a Second Date

It’s the burning question, isn’t it? How do you go from that oh-so-nervous first date into getting a second one? The physical attraction is there and you’re over the moon to learn more about this creature sitting next to you – if only you could get to the second date!

Here are some tips that should get you through your first-date worry-free and in a better position to capture the attention of the great guy or gal you’ve come across. While yes, it takes two to tango and you can’t have a second date for one, a few simple guidelines should have you sitting pretty if the attraction is mutual.

Tip 1: Keep drinking to a minimum.
Sure, we all get nervous, but what’s more nerve-wracking: the thought of being a little nervous or missing out on the opportunity for a second date because you didn’t know when to say when? Do yourself a favor and institute a one drink rule. Not only is it a good guideline to ensure you get home safely after any date, it’ll keep you from second guessing the consequences of what you might say if you’re…too comfortable.

Tip 2: It’s not an interview.
Try to avoid drilling your date! One of the biggest turnoffs according to Rachel Greenwald’s bestselling book Why He Didn’t Call You Back is the concept of the Boss Lady. Guys feel like they’re being interviewed or interrogated and they see a girl as more of a boss figure than a partner. I have no doubt girls feel this way with some guys they’ve dated as well! Keep date #1 light and lively and you’ll be in a much better position to have date #2!

Tip 3: Ask for it!
If you want the second date, leave nothing to chance. There’s nothing “desperate” in telling your date that you had a great time and would like to see them again. If they put you off, well – then you know! Get your answer up-front and be clear about your intentions. Forget that waiting three days to call stuff. If you want that second date, say the magic words. You never get if you never ask!