Profiles

Your home isn't the only thing that could use a spring cleaning. While your home was collecting clutter and dust over the cold winter months, your online dating profile was doing exactly the same thing.

Metaphorically speaking, that is, unless for some reason you've left your laptop open and untouched since December.

Either way, your online dating profile is in need of an update and spring is the perfect time. Try the following tweaks:

1. Add new interests. Odds are, you've changed since you first wrote your profile. You may have picked up a new hobby or dropped an old one during that time, meaning your profile is no longer an accurate representation of who you are. Comb through it to take out anything you aren't into and add anything new you've picked up. It's especially important to note activities you would enjoy doing with someone else, hint hint.
2. Refresh your photos. Those pictures you put up 5 years ago when you first joined the site? Delete them. The first reason is obvious: you may not look like that any more. You would be disappointed to meet someone in person who looked nothing like their photos, so don't do the same to others. The second reason might be less obvious: new photos make you look like a new addition to the site. Potential dates who have seen your photos before will pass straight over you, but post new pictures and you may suddenly generate a wave of new interest.
3. Expand your parameters. Give yourself the best opportunity to meet someone interesting by expanding your search. You think you have a “type” and perhaps you have a long list of deal breakers to go along with it, but being too specific is limiting. Look back on your online dating history. Have you been chasing after the same person with different names (and disappointing results)? If you've been fishing in that pond for a long time, it's time to find a new pond. Date possibilities will skyrocket once you venture out of your original comfort zone.

If none of that is drastic enough to suit your tastes, there's another option for your adventurous soul: rewrite your profile entirely. Scrap it all and start again. It's guaranteed to be a more up-to-date picture of who you are, and a revamped profile may even attract people who previously passed you over.

Your spring can't get any cleaner than that.

Have you ever swiped right on a Tinder match only to discover her profile isn’t real? Since the famous dating app partnered with mobile identity company TeleSign, it claims spam is down as much as 90%.

Spam has been a growing problem for Tinder– prostitutes masquerading as potential love matches eager to sell their services, hackers using the dating app to obtain valuable user information, and even companies like The Gap aiming to capitalize on the 18-25 market with clever marketing campaigns. (Last month they set up their campaign ads as Tinder user profiles without explicit permission from the company – and were asked to take them down.) Also, there was the incident of a hacker tinkering with their API to match straight men with other straight men, which ended up confusing and embarrassing a lot of users.

Even though Tinder verifies people through their Facebook accounts, many people have become adept at creating fake social media accounts, too. So Tinder’s new deal with Telesign seems to be alleviating the problem.

Telesign works by analyzing massive amounts of real-time and historical data on phone numbers, including associated contact information, phone types, geographies, and carriers. Their technology uses PhoneID verification to determine how potentially risky a phone number is, and whether the number really belongs to the person creating the account. If the score is high (meaning high risk), the user is blocked. Telesign also recommended that Tinder implement rate limits. This means that Tinder can set a limit for the number of accounts created using the same phone number. The companies did not say whether the analyzed information from Tinder users is kept private, or how it could be used by TeleSign or Tinder.

Ryan Ogle, Tinder’s CTO said in a statement: “Once we had TeleSign in place, we were able to block fraudulent accounts in a much more sophisticated way. It’s been 100 percent accurate and we’ve seen about a 90 percent reduction in spam traffic as a result, from day one.”

Tinder has taken other steps to cut back on spammers, including limiting the amount of swipes people can do in a 24-hour period with the free service. If they want to swipe indefinitely (as spam bots often do), they will have to pay for Tinder Plus.

This is another big step for the company, which seems to be making significant changes in recent months. IAC, the parent company of Tinder, has brought in a new CEO, and in March, Tinder rolled out its first paid service, Tinder Plus.

Check out our review of Tinder for more information on this popular dating app.

A recent article in The Daily Beast brought up a question that has floated around the online dating community for a while – that is, how do you handle seeing someone you know on an online dating site or app?

For example, have you ever been matched with a co-worker on OkCupid? Or with an ex boyfriend on Hinge? Or with your engaged friend on Grindr? Or even your sister on Tinder? (Yes, this has happened to a few daters.)

Many people have experienced this strange mingling of their real lives and their online dating personas, but have different emotional reactions. While some might be mortified to be matched with a client or co-worker, others take it in stride as part of the online dating experience. Chances are, you are eventually going to run into someone you know if you swipe long enough. So the question becomes: how do you handle it?

In the case of being matched in a potentially awkward situation (say, with your co-worker), would you swipe right out of acknowledgment that you know each other (and the other person has probably already seen your profile on the dating app)? Does this send a confusing signal since you aren't interested? Or would you swipe left and hope that neither one of you brings it up at the next staff meeting?

While online dating might seem like meeting endless random strangers, it really is a lot closer to your existing circles than you might suppose. In the case of co-workers, it might be a good idea to decide what makes you more comfortable – having a good laugh about matching with each other at the next staff meeting, or swiping left and pretending you never saw each other on Tinder in the first place.

Dating apps are making it easier to reject potential matches without the other person knowing if you’ve even seen their profile. If you swipe left, the other person isn’t alerted – they just won’t be able to view your profile. The potentially awkward situation results from that person swiping right before you have had a chance to swipe left.

Some dating apps are addressing this problem by allowing users to filter out people they know in advance of being matched. OkCupid is rolling out some new features by the summer, one of which allows users to hide their profile by default, only to be seen by someone they actively “like” or message. OkCupid users will also have the option of using a Facebook account to block any of their friends that are also on OkCupid.

But does the real problem lie in potentially being matched with a client or your ex, or is it that people you know can see that you are single and looking for someone online? As far as we’ve come with accepting online dating, people can’t seem to get past its stigma. Maybe it’s time we all agree that our world is getting smaller with technology, and now is the time to accept our connectedness. After all, maybe your co-worker is a good match.

Read our Tinder review for more information on this popular dating app.

Online dating is hard. Dating is hard, period. What could be weirder than two total strangers trying to become not-total strangers? Let's just say the potential for comedic (and not so) mishaps is high.

With all that weirdness waiting to be unleashed at any second, it's no surprise we're desperate for any tip, trick, or nugget of wisdom that might stave it off. We've studied some seriously strange things in the name of cracking the online dating code, and although some are as weird as the weirdness they're trying to prevent, they're always interesting.

Check out a few unusual online dating facts below. You're bound to be surprised by at least one.

1. Men aren't into receiving short messages. Forget all the stereotypes about men hating it when women talk too much. A message from a woman to a man is 40% more likely to get a response if it's longer than a tweet (140 characters).
2. Men are, however, into women who make the first move. Women are 73% more likely to get a response if they mention “dinner,” “drinks,” or “lunch.” Speaking of stereotypes, maybe the one about “the quickest way to a man's heart” is true.
3. Online dating has a seasonal peak. The busiest time for online dating is between Christmas and Valentine's Day. According to Zoosk, the single most popular day is January 5, when 54% more people sign up.
4. There's an art to using smileys. Put aside emojis for a second and go back to the good old days of the classic smiley. If you send one with a nose :-), you're 13% more likely to get a response. If your smiley is lacking that key facial feature :), it's 66% less likely to get a message back.
5. Being active is attractive. Ok, maybe this one isn't so surprising, but it's still interesting. Wired made an infographic showing 380 of the 1,000 most commonly used words in profiles. Active, outdoorsy words like “surfing,” “skiing,” and “yoga” topped the list.
6. People actually prefer selfies. Joke about selfies all you want, but they're shockingly effective if you're looking for a date. A Zoosk study found that 84% of people favor selfies over formal profile pictures.
7. Too much online chit-chat can ruin a good thing. Because safety is a consideration when meeting a stranger over the Internet, you may think it's best to prolong the convo for as long as possible before meeting up in person. However, a 2013 study in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication suggests that too much communication could be problematic. The more you talk before a first date, the more time you have to idealize the person and the greater the risk of a letdown when you finally meet face-to-face.

Online dating services like eHarmony and Match have long touted the science behind their matching process, claiming that specially designed algorithms hold the secret to lasting love. But how accurate is this claim? That is, are people who join online dating sites finding long-term relationships easier to come by?

Not according to a recent study by a group of researchers from five different universities in the Midwest, South, East Cost, and West Coast. The authors found that online dating sites offer a different experience and more opportunities compared to conventional dating, but the success of these sites is not clear – namely, the matching algorithms haven’t proven their anticipated success.

“There is one fundamental problem with all of these algorithms,” Eli Finkel, a psychologist at Northwestern University who was one of the researchers for the study, told the San Francisco Chronicle. “They have set themselves up with an impossible task: They assume that they can take information from two people who are totally unaware of each other’s existence and determine whether they are compatible. That is completely false.”

According to the study, the algorithms are misleading, because research has found both similarity and “complementarity” – the basic tenants of online match-making – have little impact on relationship quality overall. Not to mention, people are confused about what they actually want. For instance, in some studies of speed dating, the participants’ ideas of the perfect match often don’t align with who they end up being attracted to in person.

This conflicts with a 2013 study from researchers at the University of Chicago, who found that online couples have happier, longer marriages - assumingly because of the matching process.

Online dating has been around for over two decades, but until recently (thanks to the soaring popularity of apps like Tinder) – was not something the majority of singles pursued. Now, the tables have turned. According to Match, 40 million Americans have used an online dating service. On top of that, a study in 2013 (funded by eHarmony) showed that almost a third of marriages were made through online dating. So why are researchers poking holes in the science now?

“He is debunking a problem no one believes exists,” OkCupid coFounder Christian Rudder told The San Francisco Chronicle. “We’re there to get you that first date. We do use math and we do get people dates.”

Real connection however, according to Finkel, happens with face-to-face interactions, or virtual ones, through Skype of Facetime – which aren’t part of the online matching process. Tinder for instance, doesn’t claim to make good matches, but it does the job of getting people more dates.

The study was conducted by Eli J. Finkel (Northwestern University), Paul W. Eastwick (Texas A & M University), Benjamin R. Karney (UCLA), Harry T. Reis (University of Rochester), and Susan Sprecher (Illinois State University).

Since 1987, South by Southwest's annual film, interactive, and music festivals and conferences in Austin have become an increasingly bigger deal. These days it's one of the biggest festivals in America, and with that comes all the exciting excesses you would expect.

It's no stretch of the imagination whatsoever to expect that online dating explodes in Austin during that time, particularly location-based services like Tinder. This year's SXSW has indeed seen a flurry of activity related to online dating, but it isn't making a splash in the ways you'd think.

Meet Ava, a seemingly normal 25-year-old who turned out not to be normal after all. In fact, she simply turned out not to be. Ava was a Tinder bot created to promote a sci-fi thriller, Ex Machina, that premiered at the festival. An Adweek staff member wrote about his encounter with Ava in an intriguingly named piece called Tinder Users at SXSW Are Falling for This Woman, but She's Not What She Appears.

Ava was capable of having a conversation via the app, but as soon as she directed users to her Instagram, it was clear that something was off. There was just one photo and one video, both promoting Ex Machina. The link in her bio went to the movie's website. And the woman in the photo is a Swedish actress, who just happens to play a role in the film.

On one hand, it's pretty invasive and – yes – pretty spammy. No doubt “Ava” pissed plenty of SXSW-goers off. On the other hand, it's also kind of brilliant. It ties in perfectly with the concept of the film - “she's a bot in the movie, so of course she's a bot on Tinder.”

And that's not the only example of online dating being a big news story at SXSW. Dating app Quiver turned heads with a “Stop The Robot” protest at the festival. On most online dating sites, users are matched via some kind of algorithm. On Quiver, on the other hand, humans help by matching users they think would be good fits.

“Since the idea behind Quiver is to rely on users rather than artificial intelligence,” writes International Business Times, the team behind it held a fake protest outside the Austin Convention Center to “highlight the dangers of tech – and get some good PR, of course.”

Protesters at the faux-demonstration sported shirts promoting Stop The Robots, an alleged organization (but in fact just a website) raising awareness about the dangers artificial intelligence and other advanced tech could pose to humans. They carried signs with slogans like “Stop the AI threat,” “Robots won't care” and “Humans are the future.”

Who knows whether these publicity stunts convert into actual business, but they're certainly fun for the spectator.