Matching

Online dating services like eHarmony and Match have long touted the science behind their matching process, claiming that specially designed algorithms hold the secret to lasting love. But how accurate is this claim? That is, are people who join online dating sites finding long-term relationships easier to come by?

Not according to a recent study by a group of researchers from five different universities in the Midwest, South, East Cost, and West Coast. The authors found that online dating sites offer a different experience and more opportunities compared to conventional dating, but the success of these sites is not clear – namely, the matching algorithms haven’t proven their anticipated success.

“There is one fundamental problem with all of these algorithms,” Eli Finkel, a psychologist at Northwestern University who was one of the researchers for the study, told the San Francisco Chronicle. “They have set themselves up with an impossible task: They assume that they can take information from two people who are totally unaware of each other’s existence and determine whether they are compatible. That is completely false.”

According to the study, the algorithms are misleading, because research has found both similarity and “complementarity” – the basic tenants of online match-making – have little impact on relationship quality overall. Not to mention, people are confused about what they actually want. For instance, in some studies of speed dating, the participants’ ideas of the perfect match often don’t align with who they end up being attracted to in person.

This conflicts with a 2013 study from researchers at the University of Chicago, who found that online couples have happier, longer marriages - assumingly because of the matching process.

Online dating has been around for over two decades, but until recently (thanks to the soaring popularity of apps like Tinder) – was not something the majority of singles pursued. Now, the tables have turned. According to Match, 40 million Americans have used an online dating service. On top of that, a study in 2013 (funded by eHarmony) showed that almost a third of marriages were made through online dating. So why are researchers poking holes in the science now?

“He is debunking a problem no one believes exists,” OkCupid coFounder Christian Rudder told The San Francisco Chronicle. “We’re there to get you that first date. We do use math and we do get people dates.”

Real connection however, according to Finkel, happens with face-to-face interactions, or virtual ones, through Skype of Facetime – which aren’t part of the online matching process. Tinder for instance, doesn’t claim to make good matches, but it does the job of getting people more dates.

The study was conducted by Eli J. Finkel (Northwestern University), Paul W. Eastwick (Texas A & M University), Benjamin R. Karney (UCLA), Harry T. Reis (University of Rochester), and Susan Sprecher (Illinois State University).

So you're obsessed with Scandal. Or Game of Thrones. Or Better Call Saul. And you know that you really should spend your evenings with real-life people instead of fictional characters who are fixated on dragons and sleeping with their siblings, but somehow dating always seems to take a back seat to your television habits.

If a new Kickstarter is successfully funded, you may not have to make a choice. The project is called My Show Mate (possibly a play on “soulmate?”) and the tagline is “Because TV is too good to watch alone.”

The concept is simple, which is probably for the best because you'll be using it in short bursts during commercial breaks. If anyone even has those anymore. There will be no 100-question dating profile to fill out, simply a place for basic information like username, location and, of course, your favorite shows. If you click with a compatible TV match, there will be a chat feature to share feelings about a pivotal moment – just beware of spoilers.

The woman behind the idea is entertainment journalist and self-professed "hopeless showmantic" Angela Manfredi. “While thinking of ways to meet a great guy with whom I have a common interest,” she writes on the Kickstarter page, “I pondered the general checklist of couples' activities. Alas, many did not pertain to me.” Hiking, biking, skiing – none of the more active activities held any appeal. But “sharing a bowl of popcorn and chocolate-covered raisins while watching the season finale of Homeland” garnered an enthusiastic yes.

“I started thinking that other singles probably feel just as strongly about their favorite shows,” she continues. “That's the inspiration for My Show Mate, which brings singles together based on similar tastes in on-screen entertainment (or as I like to call it, screentertainment.)”

Ignoring that “screentertainment” is a terrible portmanteau, it's hard not to be at least a little intrigued by the idea of getting a date without leaving the couch. The Netflix/Tinder mashup was bound to happen eventually. That being said, it's also bound to get its fair share of criticism if the project moves forward. Someone will call it lazy, or will deem users unhealthily television-obsessed.

Manfredi already has a response to them. “We have seen proof - and lived the fact ourselves - that there's a need to express our feelings about the shows we're watching,” she writes. “The challenge and mission of My Show Mate is to enable members to do so with like-minded singles via a simple, elegant process.” If the ultimate goal of online dating is to connect people, it's hard to imagine a more instant bond than a mutual love or hatred of Olivia Pope.

Remember how you thought filling out your online dating profile was a giant pain in the you-know-what? Now imagine creating an entire online dating site – just for yourself.

That's what one very dedicated dater from New York did. Meet Brandon Scott Wolf, the Brooklyn-based bartender and comedian behind DateBrandonScottWolf.com.

Visitors to the page are greeted by one of the best taglines you're likely to see anywhere: “The #1 Online Dating Site for Brandon Scott Wolf.” So he's funny and self-aware – two things women are definitely looking for in a date. Check them off the list.

Up next is a video in which BSW explains more about himself, what he's looking for, and the origins of the site. He's a college-educated, 25-yr-old bartender who was frustrated by the sheer enormity of the online dating world. With so many profiles on a single site, how could anyone possibly choose? His solution to the problem is ingenious.

Let's say you're intrigued by the prospect of dating Mr. Brandon Scott Wolf. What happens next?

He says he's looking for an easy-going, honest woman who can make him laugh. He's open to casual dating, according to his profile (aka, the only profile) on the site. However, he would “prefer to meet someone who wants to get into a more serious relationship” which, he notes, means “being able to lay on a couch together while wearing pajamas and watching Bob’s Burgers.”

If you fit the bill, submit a recent photo and take a free online personality test. Filling out your own profile is a predictably funny experience. Check out the options for age, gender, religion, and sexual preference. What's your favorite book? You're out of luck if it doesn't come from the Harry Potter series. Your favorite date? Hopefully you like pie. A favorite animal? It'd better be a bird or you're screwed.

Assuming you meet all the criteria, what happens next? A date. Probably in a diner, over a slice of pie. And if the two of you click, BSW says to expect plenty of “hand holding, homemade pasta dinners, and having someone who actually listens.”

All of this begs one question: if Wolf is a comedian, is all of this a joke?

"People have asked me, 'Are you serious? Is this a joke?' And my only response is, 'I'm not even sure,'" he told Mashable. "There's a part of me that's hoping someone is going to get this 100%, and won't catfish me, and then I'll ask them out on a date."

With each new dating app that joins the crowded market comes new promises to revolutionize dating. Every app swears it solves the problems of its predecessors, but one by one they all fall short.

We're patiently (or not so) waiting for the real developers to invent the perfect app, but in the meantime, Mic has taken a stab at solving one of the 21^st century's biggest problems. They've invented a Super App – one app to rule them all.

According to Mic, if one app could solve all the worst parts of online dating, it would need to:

1. Filter out lame opening messages. The Super App would have a built in communications rater so you never have to see another one-word message again. Bristlr, a new social network for bearded men, is currently testing a similar feature. Users can rate the quality of the messages they receive and those who are consistently rated highly get a badge on their profile.
2. Block copy-pasted messages. Everyone has either received a copy-pasted message or been guilty of sending one. Either way, it's not cool. Bristlr is also trying to solve this problem, by automatically sending a notification when a message you've received has been sent verbatim to other people.
3. Prevent men from overwhelming women with unwanted advances. Who hasn't, at least once, thought “I could really use a stalker blocker?” A lot of women are turned off by online dating because they feel overwhelmed by the number of unwanted (and sometimes downright creepy) messages they receive. Tinder changed the game when it limited messaging to people who had mutually indicated interest in each other. It doesn't eliminate the issue completely, but it's certainly a step in the right direction.
4. Make sure there's something else you're judged on besides looks. Deep down, we know we're all guilty of making snap judgments based on appearance. Enter dating app Talk or Not, which lets users slowly reveal pieces of their profile photo as their conversation with someone progresses. Looks factor into the process eventually, but not before charm, intelligence, and humor.
5. Weed out the creepers trolling for sex. It's not that there's anything wrong with casual sex between consenting adults, it's just that it gets frustrating to only be approached for sex if you're looking for something more. Mic suggests “A feature that would prominently note that the user in question is looking for a relationship versus strictly hoping to score,” in order to “prevent misunderstandings early on.”
6. Send you matches directly so you don't waste hours swiping though terrible profiles. Because no one wants carpal tunnel. The Super App would take the Coffee Meets Bagel approach and send matches so you don't have to waste time searching and swiping.
7. Keep your profile hidden from people you don't want seeing it. Family, exes, co-workers – none of those people need to know what you're up to online. The League allows users to sync LinkedIn with the app so that you never have to worry about someone unwanted peeping your profile.

Let us know what you'd like to see in the perfect dating app, and for more of Mic's suggestions see the original post.

For those who have been following the trajectory of the phenomenal success of dating app Tinder, for the founders of the app, it wasn’t such a successful match.

Whitney Wolfe was one of the founders of Tinder along with Justin Mateen and Sean Rad, who were the face of the company  as it launched to great success. Then Wolfe and Mateen became romantically involved and when that ended, so did their professional relationship – through reports of abusive behavior and a lawsuit that ended in a $1 million settlement for Wolfe.

The young entrepreneur wants to put all that behind her however. In a recent interview with Business Insider Australia, she addressed the lawsuit, her critics, and the launch of her new dating app Bumble.

Wolfe claims she has moved on, but her history with Tinder is still a bit convoluted. According to Wolfe, she came up with the name and first shepherded the dating app herself by reaching out to students on college campuses, urging them to try it. However, Mateen and Rad have stated that Mateen was the one who brought Tinder to potential users, mainly through the fraternities and his contacts with large social networks at college campuses.

The fight between Mateen and Wolfe got nasty, with text messages back and forth that were exposed in the media. From an outsider’s perspective, neither one of them looked innocent, but in the end, it was a case of he said she said.

Wolfe took her experience at Tinder and decided to try her hand in launching her own female-friendly dating app called Bumble. Although it has the same user-friendly photo-based structure and ease of Tinder, Bumble encourages women to make the first move by giving them 24 hours to reach out to a match before he disappears. (The guys have to sit back and wait for the women to message them.)

Other female-friendly dating apps have come before Bumble with their own spin – like LuLu, which allows women to rate their dates and discuss them with other women on the app. There’s also JessMeetKen, which allows women to promote one of their single guy friends to other women on the site, in order to give them a little endorsement for potential dates. But Bumble is showing promise too, with Wolfe reaching out to college students and encouraging them to give it a try.

“We’re definitely not trying to be sexist, that’s not the goal,” Wolfe told Business Insider. “I know guys get sick of making the first move all the time. Why does a girl feel like she should sit and wait around? Why is there this standard that, as a woman, you can get your dream job but you can’t talk to a guy first? Let’s make dating feel more modern.”

According to Wolfe, 60% of matches on Bumble turn into conversations, and in a little over a month since the launch, there have been more than 100,000 downloads. 

Let's talk about the Tinder problem.

On one hand, Tinder has been great for mobile dating. Tons of people are on the app, meaning no one is judging you for using it and your pool of potential dates is huge. On the other hand, there are so many people using it that it's difficult to find the needles in the undateable haystack. It's easy to dismiss the entire app as useless once you've swiped left on enough losers.

A new app called The League is hoping to solve that problem – by admitting only the most successful and ambitious users, and keeping everyone else out. Basically, it's Tinder for elitists, although founder Amanda Bradford prefers to say The League “curates members.”

"The best universities curate students. Employers curate their employees. Work and school are the top places where 20-somethings meet each other. So it makes sense for a dating community," she told Business Insider.

The target user is interesting and motivated, passionate and working towards achieving a dream, a young professional who is looking for something more than a hookup. So far the app skews slightly female. Users tend to be in their late 20s and have advanced degrees. All have successfully passed through The League's are-you-cool-enough algorithm, which Bradford says relies more on LinkedIn than Facebook.

If accepted, users are shown a handful of matches each day. At 5pm, a new batch of matches is available. The League ensures you aren't shown first connections or current co-workers, to minimize the potential for awkward encounters.

Accepted users also receive a “ticket” to give to another single friend. Others are put on a waitlist until they’re deemed worthy of entrance into The League. Admittance doesn't guarantee you a spot forever – if you fail to measure up to The League's exacting standards (by responding poorly and earning a bad “flakiness score,” for example), you will be deemed a “low-quality member” and ousted.

Bradford was initially hoping to raise $750,000 from investors, but interest in the app was so high that it's now raised $2.1 million in seed funding. For now, The League is limited to 4,500 beta users in San Francisco. Since November, the app has been responsible for pairing 20,000 people and 19 successful couples. Bradford is focused on growing her small team and expanding to New York City, where there is already a sizeable wait list.

Following NYC, Bradford hopes to conquer London and work her way through more of the world's most interesting cities. The League currently has no plans to come to America's smaller towns, where it's unlikely to find its hyper motivated, career-focused target market.