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We still don't get it


Marty

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Trying to meet someone on line is how old, almost as old as the Internet itself? When I look back, it looks like we haven't gotten very far. I look at all the mistakes people have made, and I see the same mistakes over and over again.

Maybe it's just me... but everything all made sense when I realized last fall that some of us are players and others are keepers. Online dating services don't care about the difference, they just keep lumping everyone together, and everyone just keeps abusing the system. A few of us win, but most of us get tired of losing, so we give up. A lot of us are still trying to attract someone the way our parents did... yeah right, like you can play hard-to-get or flirt online.

The solution to the OLD mess has been right in front of us for years, but everyone either thinks (wrongly) that it's very expensive, or maybe they don't really want to meet someone that much after all. It would be easy to start a website just for singles in a given area, then ask them if they're a keeper or a player, and have separate clubs for both... the singles could run the site themselves, and the ripoff artists who tried to muscle in on it would be laughed at. But, nobody seems willing to do that... so that's why I don't feel the least bit sorry for anyone who tries OLD and gets taken. Maybe I'm just a mean bastard, but I don't feel sorry for other guys who try to use OLD to score quickie sex and end up never getting any. As long as there are sad sacks like that, the ripoff artists will keep making a living off them.

As for me, if I get involved in the dating game again, I'm not going to do it online. There are ways to search offline without going broke. I will not tell you exactly what I have in mind, but my friend has an idea which is pretty good, and I'm going to go along with it.

But, I'll make a deal... if it works, I'll come back and tell you all about it, so it can work for you too. If it doesn't work, well then I guess it's back to the drawing board.

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