You're Not Boring, You Just Say You Are
- Sunday, July 10 2011 @ 09:50 am
- Contributed by: Jet
- Views: 1,894
I have a confession to make.
I’m not a supermodel. That’s right - I’m not paid ridiculous amounts of money to put on outfits and wear them in front of a camera. I know, it’s shocking, and I apologize if I misled you in any way. But it gets worse.
I am not, in any way, a commentator on TV. No one wants to film me giving my opinions. The truth of the matter is...
I’m a human being. I have a job that is mildly interesting to some - I don’t know if you fall in that category. I have some hobbies and interests - I don’t know if they match up with yours, though. I find them fun, but I don’t want to act too interested, in case you’d find me strange.
Actually, chances are, you find me strange already - but these are the messages that people put on their online dating profiles every day. If it seems unattractive of off-putting, it’s because it is. Why should you apologize for who are? And even more to the point, why should you apologize for who you aren’t?
Maybe you’re not a high-powered lawyer or an actress. Very few people are. Maybe your life doesn’t make the headlines of the newspaper or even the tabloids; again, hardly anyone’s does. That doesn’t mean you’re boring, or that anyone else would find you so. The truth is, excitement is contagious. You can have the most “boring” job on paper; if you’re confident and passionate, others will begin to feel the same interest you do. And it works the other way; even the most exciting jobs or hobbies can be “boring” in the wrong light, to someone who doesn’t know much about them.
Thus, when you write your online profile, don’t worry about what others will think of how you spend your time. Instead, think about your own approach: are you making it seem worthwhile? Are you sharing the excitement you feel, or are you making yourself look worse than you are? After all, if you don’t respect your own choices and hobbies, why should anyone else?
I’m not a supermodel. That’s right - I’m not paid ridiculous amounts of money to put on outfits and wear them in front of a camera. I know, it’s shocking, and I apologize if I misled you in any way. But it gets worse.
I am not, in any way, a commentator on TV. No one wants to film me giving my opinions. The truth of the matter is...
I’m a human being. I have a job that is mildly interesting to some - I don’t know if you fall in that category. I have some hobbies and interests - I don’t know if they match up with yours, though. I find them fun, but I don’t want to act too interested, in case you’d find me strange.
Actually, chances are, you find me strange already - but these are the messages that people put on their online dating profiles every day. If it seems unattractive of off-putting, it’s because it is. Why should you apologize for who are? And even more to the point, why should you apologize for who you aren’t?
Maybe you’re not a high-powered lawyer or an actress. Very few people are. Maybe your life doesn’t make the headlines of the newspaper or even the tabloids; again, hardly anyone’s does. That doesn’t mean you’re boring, or that anyone else would find you so. The truth is, excitement is contagious. You can have the most “boring” job on paper; if you’re confident and passionate, others will begin to feel the same interest you do. And it works the other way; even the most exciting jobs or hobbies can be “boring” in the wrong light, to someone who doesn’t know much about them.
Thus, when you write your online profile, don’t worry about what others will think of how you spend your time. Instead, think about your own approach: are you making it seem worthwhile? Are you sharing the excitement you feel, or are you making yourself look worse than you are? After all, if you don’t respect your own choices and hobbies, why should anyone else?
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