You met Him at a Halloween Party...Now What?
- Tuesday, November 23 2010 @ 04:04 pm
- Contributed by: kellyseal
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Many of you attended a party or two during Halloween weekend. If you met someone you found interesting and would like to see him again, how do you follow up? Do you Facebook friend him, call him, or wait until he makes contact?
There are many “rules” for dating protocol here, created mostly for the sake of keeping a guy interested. I’m not a big fan of rules. I prefer taking chances. After all, risk can equal reward, right? Here are a few things to bear in mind when deciding whether to make the next move.
First, consider how you left things with your love interest. Did he say he would call you, or did you agree to more firm plans? If you parted ways by leaving him your phone number, it’s up to him to call. But don’t sit around and wait for it---keep attending networking mixers and online dating. Keeping yourself busy helps you keep your perspective. Remember, even if you liked him, there are plenty of other guys out there if he isn't for you.
If he gave you his number, then don’t hesitate to make the first move. Call him or text him and make some plans. If you want to wait a few days, that is your choice, but I don’t think that rule applies anymore since it’s so easy to message someone instantly. Texting is a great way to flirt. People move quickly, so if you like him, go for it! If he’s interested, he won’t hesitate to see you again. If he makes excuses and says he’s too busy, then you know he isn’t really interested. It’s better to know up front and move on rather than waiting for phone calls and trying to decipher what he’s thinking and feeling.
If you didn’t exchange contact information but agreed to find each other on Facebook, I would suggest messaging him rather than “friending” him. If you message him, you don’t risk him seeing all of your information up front, and you aren’t connected to him in case things don’t work out. Once you have done this, the ball is in his court so again, don’t wait for a response. Keep circulating.
And guys, if you met someone you are interested in, don’t wait to call her. Likely if you wait 3 days (or whatever amount of time you feel appropriate), she likely moved on to another candidate who seemed more interested.
There are many “rules” for dating protocol here, created mostly for the sake of keeping a guy interested. I’m not a big fan of rules. I prefer taking chances. After all, risk can equal reward, right? Here are a few things to bear in mind when deciding whether to make the next move.
First, consider how you left things with your love interest. Did he say he would call you, or did you agree to more firm plans? If you parted ways by leaving him your phone number, it’s up to him to call. But don’t sit around and wait for it---keep attending networking mixers and online dating. Keeping yourself busy helps you keep your perspective. Remember, even if you liked him, there are plenty of other guys out there if he isn't for you.
If he gave you his number, then don’t hesitate to make the first move. Call him or text him and make some plans. If you want to wait a few days, that is your choice, but I don’t think that rule applies anymore since it’s so easy to message someone instantly. Texting is a great way to flirt. People move quickly, so if you like him, go for it! If he’s interested, he won’t hesitate to see you again. If he makes excuses and says he’s too busy, then you know he isn’t really interested. It’s better to know up front and move on rather than waiting for phone calls and trying to decipher what he’s thinking and feeling.
If you didn’t exchange contact information but agreed to find each other on Facebook, I would suggest messaging him rather than “friending” him. If you message him, you don’t risk him seeing all of your information up front, and you aren’t connected to him in case things don’t work out. Once you have done this, the ball is in his court so again, don’t wait for a response. Keep circulating.
And guys, if you met someone you are interested in, don’t wait to call her. Likely if you wait 3 days (or whatever amount of time you feel appropriate), she likely moved on to another candidate who seemed more interested.
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