No Strings Attached
- Sunday, June 27 2010 @ 11:32 am
- Contributed by: Jet
- Views: 8,285
The world of online dating can sometimes seem rather formulaic. Do this to get people to look at your profile; don't do that; an email should be this long and stay away from these subjects; don't go on a date too soon. It can become easy to forget about the human component, the thing that actually makes it dating. And that human factor can make online dating just as unexpected and interesting as meeting through any other channel.
A male friend of mine recently got an email from a woman (not usual, to say the least). “You seem like a really interesting guy, and we seem to have a lot in common,” she wrote. “I see, however, that you're looking for a long-term thing, and I'm looking for something that's a little more casual. It would still be great to meet and hang out, though...”
So, comfortable with the knowledge that it wasn't a meeting to determine if they were soul mates in true love, my friend decided to meet up with the casual girl anyway. The girl was spot-on in her assessment of their compatibility – they appear to have tons in common, and he had a great time. Now, at the very least, he has a new friend. Will it turn into something more? Time will tell, but for now there's no pressure.
As you check out profiles, bear in mind that online dating sites are essentially just a way to meet new people. There's no harm in meeting someone who doesn't meet your criteria for a perfect match, because you might come out with something different than true love. However, take a cue from casual girl and be upfront about your intentions; if you're just looking for friendship or you know you have a major difference, get it out of the way now. You have the means to meet lots of great people at your fingertips; take advantage of the tools, and you might just surprise yourself.
A male friend of mine recently got an email from a woman (not usual, to say the least). “You seem like a really interesting guy, and we seem to have a lot in common,” she wrote. “I see, however, that you're looking for a long-term thing, and I'm looking for something that's a little more casual. It would still be great to meet and hang out, though...”
So, comfortable with the knowledge that it wasn't a meeting to determine if they were soul mates in true love, my friend decided to meet up with the casual girl anyway. The girl was spot-on in her assessment of their compatibility – they appear to have tons in common, and he had a great time. Now, at the very least, he has a new friend. Will it turn into something more? Time will tell, but for now there's no pressure.
As you check out profiles, bear in mind that online dating sites are essentially just a way to meet new people. There's no harm in meeting someone who doesn't meet your criteria for a perfect match, because you might come out with something different than true love. However, take a cue from casual girl and be upfront about your intentions; if you're just looking for friendship or you know you have a major difference, get it out of the way now. You have the means to meet lots of great people at your fingertips; take advantage of the tools, and you might just surprise yourself.
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