My Eyes! or, T.M.I.
- Thursday, March 25 2010 @ 10:09 am
- Contributed by: Jet
- Views: 2,450
Let's say you're constructing your first online dating profile. You've chosen your screen name carefully. You're aware of online safety practices, so you're pretty sure nothing in your profile hints at where you work or anything too specific about where you live. You're honest, though; you like to be upfront, and you don't like playing games. Thus, you assert exactly what you're there for: you're looking for a relationship, or maybe friendship. And if someone's interested in a quick hookup, well, that might be okay too.
While there are definite pros and cons to this approach, the problem I'd like to address today is that the profile has officially gone out of the romantic shallow end of the pool and is treading water in the sex category. And while there's nothing wrong with this, there's a mantra you should repeat to yourself if you choose to take this course: My coworkers could see this. My neighbors could see this. Am I okay with people I know seeing this?
Even if you're appropriately vague about the specific details of your life, the fact remains that you'll probably post a picture. And though the internet is a vast place, most singles in your area will probably eventually scour every single local match – and some not-so-local. So if you're not comfortable with others knowing you even have a sex life, it's probably a good idea to play it safe.
“Well, I fall into this category,” you might think, “but I know that no one I know uses my site. In fact, I'm the only single person I know!”
Just today, I was helping someone look for a match in their area – not mine – and I spotted someone I don't know personally, but I know we have acquaintances in common. Just in case I hadn't recognized them, they also provided way too much information about their life, which confirmed it. And I now know way more about their sexual interests than I ever needed.
All it takes is your coworker's sister to say, “Hey, here's someone who also works at Business X! Do you know them?” And again, it happens more frequently than you might think.
Now, if you're comfortable being open sexually, and you'd even say the same things at work or dinner or anywhere else, go for it. But if it would make you uncomfortable to have someone you know read your profile, you might want to edit, just in case.
While there are definite pros and cons to this approach, the problem I'd like to address today is that the profile has officially gone out of the romantic shallow end of the pool and is treading water in the sex category. And while there's nothing wrong with this, there's a mantra you should repeat to yourself if you choose to take this course: My coworkers could see this. My neighbors could see this. Am I okay with people I know seeing this?
Even if you're appropriately vague about the specific details of your life, the fact remains that you'll probably post a picture. And though the internet is a vast place, most singles in your area will probably eventually scour every single local match – and some not-so-local. So if you're not comfortable with others knowing you even have a sex life, it's probably a good idea to play it safe.
“Well, I fall into this category,” you might think, “but I know that no one I know uses my site. In fact, I'm the only single person I know!”
Just today, I was helping someone look for a match in their area – not mine – and I spotted someone I don't know personally, but I know we have acquaintances in common. Just in case I hadn't recognized them, they also provided way too much information about their life, which confirmed it. And I now know way more about their sexual interests than I ever needed.
All it takes is your coworker's sister to say, “Hey, here's someone who also works at Business X! Do you know them?” And again, it happens more frequently than you might think.
Now, if you're comfortable being open sexually, and you'd even say the same things at work or dinner or anywhere else, go for it. But if it would make you uncomfortable to have someone you know read your profile, you might want to edit, just in case.
Subscribe
