Lessons From The Ultimate Soulmate Summit

60,000 people...11 days...21 of the world's top relationship experts.

On Valentine's Day 2011, Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret, and Claire Zammit, co-creator of the Calling in "The One" online course, hosted The Ultimate Soulmate Summit, a online teleseminar series they call "the most widely attended love manifestation event in history."

Leading experts in the fields of love, relationships, and attraction, like Dr. John Gray, Dr. Helen Fisher, and Christian Carter shared their advice on overcoming the barriers that prevent so many singles from attracting love and companionship into their lives. If you missed the cyberspace convention, Chicago Tribune contributor Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz offers a short recap of the presentations' highlights:

Day One: Dr. John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

Ladies: If you feel that the man you're dating is pulling away from you, don't react by chasing after him and asking where the relationship is going. Give him time by himself, and when he returns - of his own volition - your connection will be stronger than ever.

Day Two: Helen Fisher, anthropologist and Chemistry.com advisor

People can be divided into four personality types: explorers (adventurous and creative), builders (social and community-driven), directors (decisive and analytical), and negotiators (expressive and emotional). Explorers and builders prefer partners within the same category, while directors and negotiators are typically attracted to each other.

Day Three: Deborah Rozman, executive director of HeartMath

The heart's magnetic field is 5x more powerful than the brain's, and your heartbeat transmits your feelings to every cell in your body, so if you radiate more love into the electromagnetic field of your heart, and less doubt and blame, you will attract positive, healthy people into your life.

Day Four: Hale Dwoskin, author of The Sedona Method

Most people subconsciously sabotage their relationships by searching for things they don't like or find annoying about their significant others. Succumbing to past pain and disappointment leads to neediness and the false expectation that a relationship will make you feel "complete."

Day Five: Alison Armstrong, co-founder of PAX Programs

Always be your authentic self in relationships - do no try to mould yourself or your partner into "The One." Be clear about what you want in a relationship, and make sure your significant other shares that vision.

We'll continue with Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz's recaps of days 6-11, and advice from the likes of Evan Marc Katz, Lori Gottlieb, and the Summit's hosts, next time...