Giving Thanks
- Friday, November 26 2010 @ 09:07 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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Thanksgiving is upon us. Even if you don't live in the US, chances are you might have entered your own season of thanksgiving. Between the holidays and the nature of winter – death and rebirth, cold, waiting for the darkness to give way to light... well, let's just say it's a prime season for reflection.
Just as it's important to give thanks in life every so often, so too is it in online dating – to take a moment to reflect not on what we want, but what we have. Lest you think I'm just being preachy, I'm not – acknowledging what's good in your life will help you write a more positive, upbeat profile.
Too often I've heard, “Well, there's nothing really special about me. I'm not the head of a company, I'm not great in any sports, I'm just a girl with a dog.” After that same person has reflected on what they like about their life – not even thinking in terms of self-esteem – their description becomes markedly more positive: “I'm in a job that entertains me every day. I'm in a knitting group with a great group of people; they're supportive even though I'm just learning, and a bit clumsy. I love my dog – he keeps me laughing, and it's impossible to be bored around him.”
Now, which person would you want to meet? The one in the first description, or the second? Note that even though she wasn't boasting about herself, her positive attitude about those around her makes her more appealing. Attitudes are contagious; thus, we're drawn to positive people, because we know it will make us feel positive as well.
It's good for all of us to give thanks every once in awhile; for those with low self-esteem, it can be a perfect fix for your profile when bragging about yourself is still too difficult, and a great first step in feeling better about yourself. The world can handle a bit more optimism and positivity; don't be afraid to add a liberal dash when you're cooking up your winter profile.
Just as it's important to give thanks in life every so often, so too is it in online dating – to take a moment to reflect not on what we want, but what we have. Lest you think I'm just being preachy, I'm not – acknowledging what's good in your life will help you write a more positive, upbeat profile.
Too often I've heard, “Well, there's nothing really special about me. I'm not the head of a company, I'm not great in any sports, I'm just a girl with a dog.” After that same person has reflected on what they like about their life – not even thinking in terms of self-esteem – their description becomes markedly more positive: “I'm in a job that entertains me every day. I'm in a knitting group with a great group of people; they're supportive even though I'm just learning, and a bit clumsy. I love my dog – he keeps me laughing, and it's impossible to be bored around him.”
Now, which person would you want to meet? The one in the first description, or the second? Note that even though she wasn't boasting about herself, her positive attitude about those around her makes her more appealing. Attitudes are contagious; thus, we're drawn to positive people, because we know it will make us feel positive as well.
It's good for all of us to give thanks every once in awhile; for those with low self-esteem, it can be a perfect fix for your profile when bragging about yourself is still too difficult, and a great first step in feeling better about yourself. The world can handle a bit more optimism and positivity; don't be afraid to add a liberal dash when you're cooking up your winter profile.
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