Five tips for women to make your profile stand out

- Sunday, October 25 2009 @ 11:46 am
- Contributed by: EFoley
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Ladies, this one's for you. If you've ever wondered how you can compete with all the other pretty faces on your dating site (and c'mon, you can admit you scoped out the competition, got upset, and poured yourself a big glass of wine - we've all been there!), then be prepared to learn the ways of a plain Jane who was never short on dates.
Your profile text is what's going to make guys REALLY want to get to know you. Sure, your face will help. But when those guys read an amazing profile, they'll be clambering to write you about how interested they are. (And, bonus: you'll easily be able to pick out those who read the profile and those who just sent a form email!)
Toot your horn!
Many women underestimate themselves in their profiles because they're afraid of coming off like a... witch (hey, it's almost Halloween!), or uppity or high maintenance. So instead of being that, they swing the pendulum ALLLLLL the way to the other side and come off sounding like a 1950s housewife. "Oh, I have some interests, but I'd really like to learn about yours, dear potential husband." Ugh!
Seriously, ladies, write about what makes you awesome. Do you climb mountains, write novels, change your own oil, bake the world's best chocolate chip cookies? Tell a story that makes guys want to be a part of your life!
Don't be like everyone else.
You know that "Show more like her" button that you used to scope out girls that your dating site says are similar to you? Read their profiles and find out what they're doing. Then do a 180 and be unique. If everyone's writing about how their guilty pleasure is Twilight, talk about how your guilty pleasure is Halo. Nobody wants to date a cookie cutter - write about what makes you different than the rest.
Stay positive.
Keep your profile 100% positive. Even if you're getting emails from guys who are too old, too far away, too much like your cheating ex, etc etc. Out of every 10 female profiles I read, about 6-7 have some sort of negativity in them. Stand out from the crowd by being that beacon of positivity.
Walk the TMI line carefully.
You can reveal a lot about yourself in your profile, but beware the TMI line. What is cool or funny about your life to you and your friends might be utterly terrifying or embarrassing to a stranger. Stick to writing about the type of things you wouldn't mind telling your grandmother about yourself.
Remember your audience.
Unless you're a lesbian, your dating profile is written to attract a straight man. Gushing about how much you loved the latest chick flick is not going to make you more attractive to a straight man. Writing about your embroidery is not going to endear you to a straight man. These things are all fine and good, but they don't need to be in your dating profile because a straight man isn't going to be attracted to those kinds of things. Keep the girly girl stuff out, or if you must, stick it in a sidebar about what you do on Girls' Night Out.
With a snazzy dating profile, you'll be sure to get many more emails than the average girl... in fact, many more emails than the hot girl who barely filled her profile in at all. Take the time to write your best profile and you'll spend less time on your dating site.