Finishing Each Other's Sentences
- Thursday, March 22 2012 @ 09:18 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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Have you ever seen a couple that’s been together for many years? Quite often one will remind you of the other. It’s not because they don’t have their own independent personalities; however, when you’ve watched most of the same movies and TV together, live together, and over time have many of the same life experiences, well, your brain tends to make similar connections.
Plus, on a certain level we like fitting in and being “the same” as our loved ones. Small children often try to dress in clothes that are similar or the same as their “best friends.” Some people like referring to those close to them as “family,” even if they aren’t related by blood. And in some ways we simply like to categorize ourselves, whether it’s by ancestry, our astrological sign or whether we’re a “Samantha.” We like to belong, and it seems one of the first steps of getting comfortable in belonging is aligning our behavior with others - at least a little bit.
However, like anything else, there is such a thing as going too far. Completely losing one’s prior identity upon entering a new relationship can be a sign that the relationship is not healthy. A relationship is based on two independent, distinct people, two pillars of personality. It can be common for friends and family to have to adjust to sharing their time with your new partner, but if several people approach you with concern, it can be worth evaluating the health of your relationship.
But a little give and take isn’t a cause for worry. When you begin spending time with someone new, you’re being exposed to new interests, new favorites, even new slang. You’re incorporating a new person into your life, after all, and it’s exciting, too. So enjoy this period of discovery! And maybe keep notes - in a few decades, it might be difficult to distinguish who brought what to the relationship.
Plus, on a certain level we like fitting in and being “the same” as our loved ones. Small children often try to dress in clothes that are similar or the same as their “best friends.” Some people like referring to those close to them as “family,” even if they aren’t related by blood. And in some ways we simply like to categorize ourselves, whether it’s by ancestry, our astrological sign or whether we’re a “Samantha.” We like to belong, and it seems one of the first steps of getting comfortable in belonging is aligning our behavior with others - at least a little bit.
However, like anything else, there is such a thing as going too far. Completely losing one’s prior identity upon entering a new relationship can be a sign that the relationship is not healthy. A relationship is based on two independent, distinct people, two pillars of personality. It can be common for friends and family to have to adjust to sharing their time with your new partner, but if several people approach you with concern, it can be worth evaluating the health of your relationship.
But a little give and take isn’t a cause for worry. When you begin spending time with someone new, you’re being exposed to new interests, new favorites, even new slang. You’re incorporating a new person into your life, after all, and it’s exciting, too. So enjoy this period of discovery! And maybe keep notes - in a few decades, it might be difficult to distinguish who brought what to the relationship.
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