Finding Someone for Every Day
- Saturday, February 11 2012 @ 08:19 am
- Contributed by: Jet
- Views: 998
I often talk about how important honesty is when it comes to starting a new relationship - because there’s always that point when the makeup comes off, when we let out the breath we were holding and our stomachs too, and just be ourselves - and why not begin with as clear a conscience as possible? More specifically, however, it’s important to be honest about two things - how things are, and how you want them to be.
When you’re filling out your online profile, it’s usually a good idea to talk about what you want to do in the future, in a positive way - skills you want to learn, date venues you want to visit, your dreams. It’s an easy way to bring a shining ray of positivity to your profile, and to avoid negativity when you feel like your day-to-day life isn’t worth writing home about. For example: yes, you might currently be watching the twelfth season of a reality show - but you can’t wait for spring so you can start up Ultimate Frisbee again!
But here’s the thing: in a relationship you’re together through the boring times as well as the exciting ones. Even if you have several fun and exciting date ideas, it’s possible to blow through them all in less than a year. And even though you might have several exciting long-term plans, massive life changes don’t happen overnight. Sometimes they get delayed. Life has its own plans.
So no, you don’t have to emphasize the boring side of your life on your profile - it can be inferred, because everyone (really, everyone) has one. Once you begin dating, however, it’s important to see if you’re compatible on nights in as well as adventures. Can you have a night in and watch TV together? Realistically, there will be many more of those in the future than picnics in the park or urban rock-climbing.
Most of us are keen to demonstrate on our profiles the many facets of our personalities. What we often fail to remember is that not all of them are exciting - but even the boring parts of our lives make up the total package. As you head out on dates, testing your chemistry, remember to be honest about who you are in addition to who you’d like to be.
When you’re filling out your online profile, it’s usually a good idea to talk about what you want to do in the future, in a positive way - skills you want to learn, date venues you want to visit, your dreams. It’s an easy way to bring a shining ray of positivity to your profile, and to avoid negativity when you feel like your day-to-day life isn’t worth writing home about. For example: yes, you might currently be watching the twelfth season of a reality show - but you can’t wait for spring so you can start up Ultimate Frisbee again!
But here’s the thing: in a relationship you’re together through the boring times as well as the exciting ones. Even if you have several fun and exciting date ideas, it’s possible to blow through them all in less than a year. And even though you might have several exciting long-term plans, massive life changes don’t happen overnight. Sometimes they get delayed. Life has its own plans.
So no, you don’t have to emphasize the boring side of your life on your profile - it can be inferred, because everyone (really, everyone) has one. Once you begin dating, however, it’s important to see if you’re compatible on nights in as well as adventures. Can you have a night in and watch TV together? Realistically, there will be many more of those in the future than picnics in the park or urban rock-climbing.
Most of us are keen to demonstrate on our profiles the many facets of our personalities. What we often fail to remember is that not all of them are exciting - but even the boring parts of our lives make up the total package. As you head out on dates, testing your chemistry, remember to be honest about who you are in addition to who you’d like to be.
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