Fact or Fiction?
- Friday, June 11 2010 @ 08:01 am
- Contributed by: Jet
- Views: 2,232
When constructing an online dating profile, we typically try to appeal to as broad a range of readers as possible. We try to display all aspects of our personality: we like to go out on the town, but we also like to stay in and watch a movie. We like to have fun, but we don't need to be the center of attention.
We want to be the best of both worlds, but what do we do when we're actually a little more one-sided? What if you're terribly shy, and you really don't like to go out on the town? What if you're content to always be in the wings?
To put it simply, don't lie. Yes, you want to appear attractive, and maybe you think showing a “balanced” nature will help your chances of getting a first-contact email. However, what do you do when you're planning your first date? Or your second? When do you admit you fudged the truth on your profile – when you're having a panic attack in the middle of a club?
All misrepresenting yourself will do is add stress and ultimately add an extra hurdle in your relationship. So we've established you don't want to lie; what should you do if you feel you're not well-rounded enough?
Essentially, embrace your personality and interests – and play them up in a non-negative way. Don't say you don't know how to have fun; say you're not a party girl or barfly. Say you're most comfortable in an intimate setting – don't say you're uncomfortable in large crowds. Instead of saying you have no fashion sense, why not say it's quirky, eccentric? Better yet, explain that it's simply not important to you – and then talk about what is.
Ultimately, someone will love you for who you are, not who you're trying to be. Instead of trying to sort through fact and fiction, represent yourself accurately from the beginning, and you'll be that much closer to finding someone who is truly compatible.
We want to be the best of both worlds, but what do we do when we're actually a little more one-sided? What if you're terribly shy, and you really don't like to go out on the town? What if you're content to always be in the wings?
To put it simply, don't lie. Yes, you want to appear attractive, and maybe you think showing a “balanced” nature will help your chances of getting a first-contact email. However, what do you do when you're planning your first date? Or your second? When do you admit you fudged the truth on your profile – when you're having a panic attack in the middle of a club?
All misrepresenting yourself will do is add stress and ultimately add an extra hurdle in your relationship. So we've established you don't want to lie; what should you do if you feel you're not well-rounded enough?
Essentially, embrace your personality and interests – and play them up in a non-negative way. Don't say you don't know how to have fun; say you're not a party girl or barfly. Say you're most comfortable in an intimate setting – don't say you're uncomfortable in large crowds. Instead of saying you have no fashion sense, why not say it's quirky, eccentric? Better yet, explain that it's simply not important to you – and then talk about what is.
Ultimately, someone will love you for who you are, not who you're trying to be. Instead of trying to sort through fact and fiction, represent yourself accurately from the beginning, and you'll be that much closer to finding someone who is truly compatible.
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