Don't Judge a Book By Its Cover
- Monday, September 06 2010 @ 10:40 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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Let's say you're starting to become an old hand at this whole online dating thing. You've had your profile checked and proofread; you know to update it monthly to keep it fresh; you're smiling in a great, well-lit default picture. You're just positive your profile is as good as it can be, and you've got the etiquette of online dating down pat.
When you've invested so much time and effort into your online dating profile, it can be frustrating when you see people who are less skilled in the ways of profile creation. You might feel more like editing a profile than actually reading it! While it's good that you've become so confident in your own skills, you're treading on dangerous ground.
You see, on an online dating site you'll find people of all shapes and sizes, at different points in their lives... and at different points on the dating site learning curve. Everyone has to start somewhere. Sure, you know all the tips and tricks now, but would you have looked at your own profile when you first began?
This is not to say you should ignore your instincts and logic – if someone seems all wrong for you, they might well be. But if a person has a poorly constructed profile, or maybe just a few glitches here and there, try taking a look at the person behind the lack of proofreading. Sometimes a personality can shine through, even with a bad default picture or a rambling self-summary.
“But wait a minute,” you say. “I have had to work hard on my profile, and learn how to play the online dating game. Why should I expect any less of anyone else?” Well, ask yourself: when you were starting out, would you have liked someone to give you a break? Remember, you're looking for a partner, a best friend – not an editor.
When you've invested so much time and effort into your online dating profile, it can be frustrating when you see people who are less skilled in the ways of profile creation. You might feel more like editing a profile than actually reading it! While it's good that you've become so confident in your own skills, you're treading on dangerous ground.
You see, on an online dating site you'll find people of all shapes and sizes, at different points in their lives... and at different points on the dating site learning curve. Everyone has to start somewhere. Sure, you know all the tips and tricks now, but would you have looked at your own profile when you first began?
This is not to say you should ignore your instincts and logic – if someone seems all wrong for you, they might well be. But if a person has a poorly constructed profile, or maybe just a few glitches here and there, try taking a look at the person behind the lack of proofreading. Sometimes a personality can shine through, even with a bad default picture or a rambling self-summary.
“But wait a minute,” you say. “I have had to work hard on my profile, and learn how to play the online dating game. Why should I expect any less of anyone else?” Well, ask yourself: when you were starting out, would you have liked someone to give you a break? Remember, you're looking for a partner, a best friend – not an editor.
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