Does Your Income Affect Your Dating Life?

There are a few things online daters commonly lie about in their profiles - age, height, and above all else for both genders - income. It seems we are perpetually ashamed that we aren't making enough money, or that our professions won't seem so glamorous to many daters out there.

I'm not a fan of being dishonest in your profile. If you hit it off, then eventually you'll have to come clean, and wouldn't you like to start a relationship off on the right foot? But I do understand the question of income, and more specifically, employment. I live in L.A., and there are many people here who freelance - whether it's writing, film or television production, web marketing, or a number of other careers, which means money is sometimes tight. And sometimes you aren't working, which can take a toll on your dating confidence.

We're in a recession here in the U.S., so I believe people are more understanding about employment fluctuations than ever before. While your career success can give you some confidence when you're dating, it's not the only thing that defines you.

It's important to remind yourself of all the other things in your life besides your job, your income, or your lack of employment. After all, your next girlfriend or boyfriend isn't looking to hire you, she/he is looking to date you romantically.

Following are some tips to help you gain more perspective and confidence when it comes to dating:

What are your passions? This is not about your job - it's about your life. What do you like to do more than anything else? Are you an expert surfer, gardener, chef, or musician? Are you training to run a marathon because it's one of your life goals? Think about how you most like to spend your time, and what gives you the most pleasure. When you start talking about these things, your enthusiasm will attract others - including your dates.

What are your skills? Maybe you speak another language or two, or you got your pilot's license, or you're trained in ballet dancing. Take these skills and include them in your profile. Aren't you attracted to people who have unique skills or talents, and not just what they do for a living?

Be yourself. When you're describing yourself, don't spend a lot of time dwelling in what you're trying to do career-wise. While that might be a topic for your date, your profile has to attract attention and also show who you are. Most people are not their jobs, or their career ambitions, or their income goals. Also, don't apologize for what you do. Be proud - especially if you do it well, or talk about what you are working towards if it's appropriate. For instance, if you're working part-time at a local pet store while going to school to get your nursing degree, let your dates know. Motivation matters more to your dates than where you are right now.