A Holiday Relationship Survival Guide (Part III)

We covered a lot of ground in Part I and Part II, but there's one last thing that every loved up Holiday Survivalist needs: a well-equipped survival kit. This isn't your average survival kit - it doesn't include batteries, canned food, and a loaded rifle for when the zombies come. This is a relationship survival kit, a kit that contains everything you need to make it through the stressful holiday season with your couplehood intact.

So what should you pack in your holiday relationship survival kit?

• Candles and matches. In the event of a disaster things can seem pretty dark and bleak, especially during a season that's supposed to be about love, happiness, and togetherness. Make sure that you have candles on hand to shed light on those gloomy moments. Remind yourself of what the season is supposed to be about, and highlight the good things in your life. Put the spotlight on yourself when you need time alone, and on your partner when you need to focus on nurturing your relationship.

• First aid supplies. The holidays can be a painful time. Old scars begin hurting again, and new injuries are caused. The emotional wounds of the past and present can come flooding back during this time, from thoughts of relatives we have lost to conflicts with parents and siblings left over from childhood. Remember this as you enter the holiday season, and be prepared to be each other's support system if it's needed.

• A battery-operated clock. It's easy to lose track of time, especially when life feels crazier than usual and you're not thinking straight. But time doesn't stop or change because it's a special time of year, so plan accordingly. Don't over-schedule yourself and add unnecessary stress to an already-stressful time. Don't commit to more things than you can reasonably accomplish, and don't be afraid to say "no" to things that will add to the strain. Plan family time in a way that is fair and comfortable for both you and your partner, and don't forget to schedule in time for yourselves!

• Walkie-talkies. Communication is key at all times, but it's twice as important during a crisis. Keep a clear line of communication open between you and your partner, so that you have a strong support system in place when the pressure gets overwhelming. Discuss your feelings on big issues like family time, traditions, gift buying, finances, and scheduling.

Arm yourself with this gear, and you will be fully prepared to take on any disasters the holiday season throws at you.