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Aaron Schildkrout and his friend Brian Schechter founded HowAboutWe four years ago as an alternative to traditional online dating. In a recent article in The New York Observer, he said that the fundamental problem with online dating sites was that they needed to keep subscribers. The sites work best when people are looking for dates, not when they are in relationships and dropping out. Dating sites depend on a huge database of subscribers.

HowAboutWe’s focus is a bit different for an online dating site. For one, they have branched out from their online dating platform to creating a valuable resource for all people interested in dating and relationships.

The primary goal of their dating site is to help people meet offline (and get them there as quickly as possible), so they can move towards forming relationships. Instead of searching through profiles, members can create an idea for a first date, put it out to the network, and see who’s interested. Schildkrout says it’s a way for people to meet more organically.

Because of the site’s focus on date activities, it was a natural progression to create a site for couples who are looking to be inspired. Many couples are bored with the same old dates they do all the time, but don’t have the time to research or a lot of money to do something more unique. This is where HowAboutWe comes in – they curate dates particular to each city they service, and set the whole thing up for a discounted price.

It’s an appealing idea for couples. As Schildkrout says, “We make the booking process and the reservation process extremely easy — you never have to show a voucher, your name’s already on the list. We do all the work for you. We take care of all the details.”

The company is also getting into media content, acquiring sites like The Date Report and Nerve.com and creating two additional new blogs related to dating and relationships. “We built out a world-class editorial team,” says Shildkrout, “and for the last three months, we’ve been working really hard to create a media wing focused on becoming the authoritative voice on all things love, and have grown traffic dramatically in that process.”

Popular apps like Tinder and the bigger or more traditional dating sites like OkCupid don’t seem to bother Shildkrout. He sees Tinder as more of a lightweight hook-up experience and OkCupid as an algorithm-matching experience which might not match you with someone outside your type. He is focused on his product, on connecting people in a real-world way. And he’s looking to build content that gets a conversation started. 

The incredible proliferation of niche dating sites is a popular topic these days. When we say there's something for everyone, we really mean there’s something for everyone. Whether you’re looking for a vampire, a farmer, or a sea captain (or maybe all three?), there’s a site looking to match you with your perfect partner.

By comparison, dating sites for foodies seem downright normal. Stefanie Tuder, culinary school graduate and online food writer for ABC News-“Good Morning America,” decided to take three foodie sites for a test drive (make that "a taste test") to survey the scene.

HowAboutWe

First on her list was HowAboutWe, which recently announced a partnership with Serious Eats. The sites are collaborating to get online daters offline, via activities like “tacos and a spin around the Bronx zoo" or "a crawl of the essential dumplings of Flushing." Other popular food-focused sites also have similar partnerships to connect like-minded singles. All members, regardless of which co-branded page they use to sign up, can interact with all other members in order to offer as wide a dating pool as possible.

For Tuder, that wasn’t ideal. “Rather than see other readers of Serious Eats, Eater, etc.,” she writes, “which is the reason I signed up and went to that branded landing page, I see everyone in my area on HowAboutWe. And not even only the ones who are particularly interested in food.” It’s possible to narrow down searches to people who suggest food and drink date ideas, but messaging someone requires at least an $8 monthly membership.

HiDine

HiDine stirred up some controversy when it hit the scene in November. Taking a staunchly traditional approach, only men can ask women out on a date on Hi Dine and by doing so they commit to picking up the tab. Tuder found that she received many more messages and date requests on HiDine than on the other sites she experimented with. Her two critiques include the messaging system, which she calls "pretty clunky," and the fact that women do not have the option of messaging men. All a woman can do to indicate her interest in a profile is "wink" at it.

SamePlate

“While SamePlate has the best of intentions,” Tuder writes, “it simply doesn't have enough members yet to be successful." SamePlate was founded in 2012 by a man who wanted to find a partner to eat Paleo with him. SamePlate covers the Paleo phenomenon as well as anything else a food lover could want. Members can use the free site to cross-reference search any mix of diet and food combinations, which is a pretty unbeatable feature if you consider yourself foodie.

Ultimately, Tuder concludes that foodie dating is “interesting,” but doesn’t have “strong enough of a pull to stay on full time."

Just in time for spring, Zoosk has announced the beta release of its new Priority Inbox feature to take Behavioral Matchmaking to the next level. The new technology will prioritize messages from members with whom you are more likely to discover mutual attraction. This update makes Zoosk the first online dating platform to offer a feature that ranks messages in members' inboxes based on the potential for compatibility.

Traditional online dating services are based on static profiles, compiled via one-time surveys and questionnaires. Zoosk, on the other hand, is powered by its dynamic and personalized Behavioral Matchmaking technology, which tracks and analyzes a member's activity on the site in order to recommend better matches. By applying this technology to inboxes, Zoosk is making its experience more effective than ever.

“At Zoosk, we are continuously working to provide the best possible experience for members to find relationship satisfaction online,” said Shayan Zadeh, Co-Founder and CEO of Zoosk. “Lots of dating websites highlight messages from people you’ve already talked to, but our technology allows us to take it a step further by prioritizing messages from new people we think you’ll want to have a conversation with.”

The new Priority Inbox feature will identify messages from members with a greater likelihood of compatibility, which it calls Priority Messages, using stars and highlights. Those messages will be driven to the top of users' inboxes so they can't be missed.

“When developing the Priority Inbox feature, we took into account the fact that sometimes people who date online, especially women, become inundated with messages,” said Alex Mehr, Co-Founder and President of Zoosk. “Priority Inbox is a very unique feature for our members who will be spared the task of having to dig through a mountain of messages to find their desired match; not only leading them to form stronger connections, but to form meaningful connections faster than ever before.”

The patent-pending Priority Inbox feature is currently only available to some Zoosk members, but the site expects to roll it out to the rest of its 25+ million members over the course of the next month. With the #1 grossing mobile dating app and a top 25 grossing app on the iPhone in the United States, Zoosk is already a market leader in the dating industry. The service can now be found in over 80 countries in 25 languages. Priority Inbox is just the latest in a long series of innovations taking matchmaking to the next level and keeping Zoosk on top of the dating game.

It seems there’s a new online dating site every time I turn on my computer. And why not? It’s a billion-dollar-a-year industry and growing, especially now that most sites are adding mobile capabilities, which are growing at an even faster rate.

So to make an entrance at this point with the saturation of the market, you really have to come in with an interesting idea. And DreamCliq has high expectations – dubbing itself as “the Pinterest of online dating.”

Users of online dating sites sometimes get frustrated and overwhelmed with all the lengthy profiles and messaging back and forth before they ever get to a date with a potential match. A simple solution: why not test the chemistry first by video chatting with each other before meeting for drinks or coffee?

Enter a new crop of online dating apps focused on video interaction. Among those making headlines in this growing field are Date.fm, Flikdate, Video Date and two new apps launched last fall -- View N Me and Instamour.

Developers of these apps saw an opportunity when they noticed how Skype and Facetime are fast becoming typical platforms for people to communicate. They figured singles would want to see if there's chemistry before spending the time and money and effort to meet a date in person. And why not do that from your laptop or mobile phone?

While it sounds great to meet a potential date through a video chat, some people aren't so convinced. Not everyone is a movie director or cinematographer who can figure out good lighting to highlight someone's most attractive features. All too often, poor lighting and strange camera angles can interfere with making a good first impression. View N Me offers tips for looking your best on video to address this problem.

Safety is another concern, and different app developers deal with it in different ways. For example, Video Date does not use phone numbers or e-mails for people to communicate through the service, and messages delete after 24 hours. View N Me offers a strict no tolerance policy for any type of inappropriate behavior on its site. Once someone is reported they conduct a review and terminate the subscription if the user's behavior is deemed inappropriate.

But the most important question for daters is: how easy is the service to use?

Date.fm works a bit like a video-enabled Tinder app. It is simple to use - the service provides general information like age and location along with photos of matches, and you can like or dislike them. If you both like each other, you are sent a notification and then can start video chatting from within the app. FlikDate touts itself as "the fastest date in the world." You simply connect with your Facebook account and play a type of video roulette, where you can chat with someone instantly, see if you click, and accept or reject your match on the spot.

It's no surprise that video dating is becoming more and more popular. People are looking for quick ways to get to know each other. But the real test for love still takes time and effort.

In an expansion to reinvent itself as a lifestyle media network, HowAboutWe announced the acquisition of long time dating site Nerve.com.

HowAboutWe caters to both singles and those in relationships with separate subscription-based memberships, one for meeting singles and dating and one that is more of a date-planning service for couples.

The addition of Nerve.com means HowAboutWe is acquiring Nerve Dating and a database of singles who had already been using the service. Members will be automatically rolled in to the HowAboutWe for singles service, and offered a free sixth-month membership to try it out.

Nerve.com's main attraction was not its dating site, but the edgy content of its online magazine, with articles that discuss all things sexual and offbeat. HowAboutWe will be doing a redesign and relaunch of Nerve.com, though they haven't announced what that would include or how much (if at all) the content focus will change. The strength and appeal of Nerve is the brand itself, which has been around since 1997 and was one of the first web-only magazines.

HowAboutWe is focused on becoming a media powerhouse as well as an online dating service. Its roster of online magazines also includes Swimmingly.com for couples and Famously.com for celebrity news and gossip, both of which were launched the last week of January. Also under the HowAboutWe media banner is TheDateReport, which centers around dating and the single life and will also get a fresh redesign by HowAboutWe.

Brian Moylan, a former Gawker writer who has been editing TheDateReport, is now editor-in-chief of the new HowAboutWe Media, which includes all four sites.

The founders of HowAboutWe are purposeful in their media pursuits: they recognize the competition in the online dating industry, where IAC owns the majority of branded dating sites such as Match.com, OkCupid, and a number of niche sites like BlackPeopleMeet and OurTime. But these dating sites are specifically geared towards singles looking for dates. They want HowAboutWe to be a destination for people not only to meet each other, but for singles and couples to get news, advice, and also ideas about what to do together and how to nurture their relationships.

With the new sites and new content, HowAboutWe is also hoping to cash in on new advertising revenue, instead of just relying on subscriptions.

"Every lifestyle publication is speaking, in one way or another, to people and their love lives," HowAboutWe co-founder and co-CEO Brian Schechter told Observer.com. "We think that there's actually a huge opportunity to address that consumer demand as opposed to just circling around it."