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So I got the 1 week subscription to BeNaughty. At first, there was the layer of fake profiles that were obviously fake. They were located somewhere else and wanted to exchange numbers and hookup sometimes without so much as a hi. There were hundreds of these. I literally got 50+ messages like this my first hour on the site. By the end of the first night probably over 200+ and almost a week later, they are still rolling in burying my other messages.

However, on the search function, and like gallery, I found all the local profiles, and there were many hot ones I was excited to reach out to! However, a few patterns started happening. I would like these profiles, and many would immediately like back, favorite me, or even message me that they hoped to chat soon, but when I tried to message back, they would be completely unresponsive. Maybe they just have too many men trying to contact them, but it was weird and disheartening. Those who I tried to contact would almost never reply, but I am used to that on dating sites.

The weird thing is is that BeNaughty seemed to put me onto its sister site Click and Flirt at the same time, and some of those profiles I matched with and messaged on Be Naughty actually contacted me separately on the Click and Flirt site, after I messaged them on BeNaughty, effectually ignoring my message there.

After my first day, some of the profiles that messaged me I turned into actual chats. Most often they would take them into very explicit sexual directions, which distracted me from the fact that they were not great at responding to questions (though they often would), and that they asked me a lot of questions, but more rarely answered any about themselves. However sometimes they did a really good job, and the conversations would not always turn sexual. Invariably though, apart from two exceptions, they would talk for twenty mins, but at that point, either abruptly or after I started asking them more about themselves, they would say that they needed to go. Yes people have lives, but this felt very repetitious and contrived. To be honest, it feels like AI or paid actors mean to keep paying guy on the site.

Currently, I am estimating that only ~1:150 female profiles are real. Sure I feel now that I have a better idea of what to look for and could after a few messages get a sense of how legitimate a profile is. But it is a long process and the odds are stacked against you. It is a real psychological burden to sort through that and eats up your time. I lost control of my health and mental wellbeing this week trying to keep up with it and make a connection.

My question is how does anyone who has success filter out the bad profiles quickly enough that they can actually talk to real profiles. On other sites where there are profiles, the profile give a clue, but here, you have to talk to them for a few messages. I have tried asking about local weather (all profiles try to ignore or get offensive), however, I worry that it will also not interest real profiles asking them to recount local weather for the past few days.

Tks for all this

Long story short, I have canceled my subscription on both BeNaughty and the unwanted subscription on ClickAndFlirt, and deleted both profiles to the fullest extend possible. My time and life is too valuable for this. I feel confident that I will find great individuals to share my time with without getting caught up in these weeds.

Yeah, what you’re seeing on BeNaughty is pretty normal for that type of site. The flood of “hot pics,” generic flirty messages, and people who vanish as soon as you reply is usually a mix of bots, spam accounts, and users who aren’t actually active.

A few things that help:

Only respond to profiles with real-looking photos and an actual bio. Anything that looks too glossy or too empty is usually fake.

Ask a simple, normal question early. Real people can answer something basic about themselves; bots can’t.

Ignore the fast, overly flirty openers. Those are almost always automated.

Don’t rely on the matching/search features too much. Lots of “likes” come from low-quality accounts.

Unfortunately these hookup-oriented sites tend to have more noise than real people, so filtering hard is pretty much the only way to stay sane.