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Decided to try some kinky dating sites as I do have kinky side and interested in meeting others of same mindset ( Domme/sub, role play etc)

After looking at a few sites I joined Kinky Secrets. Paid up front for a yearVIP.

Submitted profile and pic and had VIP membership, so simple. Or so i thought.

My profile was to match me with like minded adults in my area.

I did receive about 20 responses overnight who said i was cute and wanted to chat with me.

I messaged back and gave my cell number and explained i did not want to chat on the site but rather one on one via phone. Now if talking on phone was not an option i would understand. Funny thing is I messaged 13 possible matches and checked status 3 days later.

Not one of my messages was retrieved !

So these women expressed interest in at least talking and yet never opened my messages to them !

I do not understand that,

Also I did message with one contact who told me she would be my Dome and requested $200 for a Mistress/sub contract. i explained that this was play and not a 24/7 lifestyle. i will not pay for this activity.

Looking at the pics of Dommes many seem fake and quite a few are similar with same pic of the Mistress but located in different states. I assume these are pros who expect to be paid for phone sex.

Why would a woman located in Texas contact me in Vermont to hook up for role playing in person? Makes no sense.

Last thing that irks me is so many men reply to a profile with comments like "nice tits" or "i'd love to eat you all night"

What is this level of immaturity all about?

I assume most women do not like these comments yet that are quite common.

I wonder if Kinky Secrets is real or just a front to get a quick $200 from me and others.

Any suggestions as to legit alt lifestyle sites?

There are dozens but how do i separate the wheat from the chaff?

Thanks for the guidance.

Oh yes you may feel that giving out my cell number is a bad idea but I can always block other party and vice versa. I just don't know who is "listening in" on a message board . I do know who is on my phone.