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I have noticed that most attractive girls advertising on Ashley Madison are working girls or are working for various websites. What they do is promise you great sex but first you have to verrify your identitiy via various websites. They ask you to commit credit card details in exchange for their addresses and phone numbers. What they are actually doing is getting you to join websites that take you round in circles and cost you money. They then re-bill you if you don't cancel your repeat billing mandate. If you are looking for a genuinely interested girl on this website its a bit like seeing a respectable girl sitting in a room full of hookers. Get the picture?

I must get more gullible as I get older! I believe the AM site is 99% a scam. Sure I bet one or two people have had the odd success but here is my experience. I started surfing and it looked interesting so I bought some very expensive 'credits'. £39 for 100 credits here in the UK. I sent a few carefully worded and polite messages because I know many women get bombarded with crude and semi-literate messages. I noticed the credits were disappearing fast and when I looked at my profile settings the default is to send messages as 'Priority' at double the credits for a normal message i.e. 10 credits instead of 5, that works out at almost 40p per message! The advantage of 'Priority' messages? You get an e-mail to tell you it has been received - big deal. I sent a total of 10 messages over a few days with no replies at all. The messages were all sent to women who were looking for someone of my age group and within 20 miles of me as well. This morning, out of credits, I logged in and was invited to chat by someone unknown. I also searched and found numerous interesting people showing as online. Against my better judgement I bought some more credits but, funny old thing, the £39 option was not there with a minimum purchase now of £59 for 200 credits. It took less than a minute to purchase the credits and suddenly ALL the people previously showing online now showed offline. The chat request had also disappeared. I searched for someone to chat to. I found ONE person available within 100 miles so I hit the chat button and had to pay 30 credits for 30 minutes chat! I reluctantly paid the credits and the person showing available for chat did not even acknowledge my friendly 'Hello'! WIth no one else to chat too there went 30 credits down the swannee! I e-mailed AM and told them I thought that was a swindle and they promptly refunded the 30 credits but what a weird system - designed to drain away credits at a high rate. I have messaged another 7 members with thoughtful and polite messages and, you guessed, no response at all. Personally I am annoyed not so much for initially parting with good money but being suckered into parting with more. Interestingly I found a website called ashleymadisonsucks.com and made a post about my experience so far but it has yet to appear. Most of the sites like the one above seem to have a critical post and then several people jumping in and saying how great AM is and how successful they have been! The cynic in me says they are run by AM or people associated with AM. Suspicions heightened when you find the site owners are hidden behind registrant companies. I think AM is a crock and would advise anybody to think carefully before parting with good money for an expensive and probably fruitless membership.

So i signed up, traded a few emails but things went cold really fast ....I noticed something funny going on with AM THEN...(read below)


This exact thing happened to my just today!! I def thing AM is up to shady stuff.... so, i decided to look up some dirt on this AM site and low and behold i find this site...{ there are other sites that talk about AM being a scam but i think this one is the one with actual real feedback}

I am calling them back to get my money back and forget the site exists....

Ashley Madison is a scam!!!!
Do not join this website because there as so many fake profiles.
I've never seen a site where most of the women are between 5'4" & 5'10" weighing between 130lbs-150lbs. You also have to buy at least 100 credits for $49.99. For each new message it cost $2.50. Some profiles states please do not send winks only emails...hmmmm could this be a fake. Why would you waste you money on a woman who might not be interested in you. I've received many emails from woman but there all collect....meaning I have to pay $2.50 each to read them. I opened and replied to two of them with no response. There are some real profile on the site though, just look for the average to ugly women.

STAY AWAY FROM ASHLEY MADISON.....THERE ARE TOO MANY FAKE PROFILES.

AGREE 99%

I think there are some real profiles, and some people hook up. But I also think they probably have fake profiles. And they might even be actively using the fake profiles to wink or send collect emails, to induce people to switch from a free subscription to a paid one just to respond.

The real thing to watch out for is how they don't tell you that they automatically re-purchase credits when you run out. I never agreed to that or opted into that, so that's fraud!

Some background... I'm happily married to an awesome wife and have a beautiful daughter. I have no interest in having an affair and messing that up. I don't like the idea behind AM, but not everyone is in my situation. To each their own. I don't judge what I don't know and that is certainly not the intent of my post. I just wanted to be clear about my biases as you read this. That said, sometime ago, I decided it would be kind of fun to see if I could determine how much of this site was legitimate and how much was a scam. Maybe I thought I'd blog about it someday, maybe it was morbid curiosity, maybe I was curious about the people that wanted to cheat... I really don't know. It doesn't really matter. What does matter is I can corroborate what most people are saying here and then some. Just to eliminate any doubts in this thread, AM absolutely uses and encourages fake profiles. They openly (well, somewhat openly) admit to it. According to their FAQs, they call it "market research" and admit that there is no way to tell the difference between a research (i.e. fake) account and a real one. You have to manually opt out, as it is on by default. Otherwise, you give them permission to contact you using collect messages which you have to pay to open, and then pay additional credits to send a response. Read that again... AM acknowledges that some of their profiles are fake and yet you still have to pay money to read the admittedly fake messages. It's OK though because it is market research! Now why in the world would anyone ever want to opt in to that?! The answer, of course, is that they wouldn't, but I suspect that whole scenario exists to protect them in the event someone actually wanted to sue them for using fake profiles to burn credits. And most people aren't going to read the FAQs. I just happened to do so because I was intent on learning as much about them as I could. BTW, I'm still curious how the message, "do you wanna chat?" and literally nothing else, is market research. I'd love to see the published results of said research, assuming it is more in-depth than "99% of men will respond to an unsolicited message sent by a hot chick". Surely that result was figured out some time ago. And it gets better... these "market research" profiles are still visible in searches even after opting out. So, you can still potentially waste credits on emails to them. And by potentially, I mean it's 100% certain you will... they are everywhere. To be fair, if you can catch them by providing proof that the profile pic is a fake or other such methods, they will usually refund the credits. That is about the only positive thing I have to say about the site. They don't, however, usually remove the profiles. I spent a little money to be a full account and I've spent a few months playing detective... I treat it as a kind of game. I've found out that most of the profiles within 500 miles of my location, in my age group, are either fake or escorts. In my anecdotal and non-scientific opinion, just about every picture with a face (singles excluded) is 100% fake. There do seem to be a lot of "big women" that are real, some are actually very nice. I don't think this is what a majority of men are looking for. I also spent time looking at Twitter, other forums, blogs, etc... and in my opinion, AM has a really aggressive social marketing strategy going on which creates fake posters, commenters, and twitter accounts. I didn't look at Facebook because, well, that would get weird and personal, but I suspect much of the same there. My question is, if the site was so popular and people were rushing out in droves to have an affair, why would all of this be necessary? So, to all the supposedly happy AM members that have posted earlier on this thread or in other threads, please include your AM profile name and I'll gladly look you up. I have no doubt that most, if not all, of these "happy customers" are employees/social marketing consultants, but I'd be happy to come back and admit I'm wrong. Maybe it is a coincidence that your experiences sound so similar to the marketing promises that AM makes. More likely, I'll end up posting as to why you are a shill. I personally think these practices are intentionally deceptive and go way beyond fair advertising. So to recap... -- They admit to using fake accounts for market research, which will still cost you real money and you get no clear benefit. -- They are aggressively marketing AM through fake accounts in all sorts of social media. -- They automatically opt you in to recurring charges when your credits expire, and don't make it clear where to opt out. -- Even though they bill you anonymously, they will un-anonymously provide your information to your bank, and most amazingly, mail(!) you correspondence if you dispute charges. I'm guessing that would suck. There are other things I've observed that I could mention, but I've rambled long enough. Maybe someday I'll post an article about it, or more likely, I'll get bored and move on to other things. And like others have said, I don't doubt that there are some genuine matches made on the site by accident, specifically in major metropolitan areas, maybe in other countries. Maybe the site was originally started with ... um, "pure" intentions. But if you think for a second that this service (or pretty much any other similar site, for that matter) is now anything other than a thinly-veiled money taking site, you are crazy.

I am on the site, I am a female.

I didn't know men were being charged to speak with me.

I am single, but I prefer dating older men (24 here) and for some reason married works better

I get 300 messages a week. I put anyone who doesn't have photos or access to private photos on the back burner. They are read only after all the pic messages. I have 200 this week unread, some are set to expire before I even open them (because I get 300 a week, I won't read all the 3wk time frame messages are available) Then I only respond to the nonpic guys if
1. Their profile impresses me in some way
2. Their email impresses me in some way
3. I get to their email before it expires


If you say "hey" and have no pics or info, I delete, I have too many people to get to, I can't bother with someone who isn't trying. It's like a job, you don't get a call back if you don't fill out the application.

I am looking for a sugar daddy at some point, and if they are offering that they may impress me more, they are serious, and our fun will be easier because they have the ability to take trips and get hotel rooms but only if I like them, I don't lie to men to get $ or gifts, or require $ or gifts, there are escort sites if a woman needs that.


The guys I don't respond to probably assume I am a bot

Read PROFILES. If you aren't getting responses you may have said something stupid I received two emails on AM today that said hey are you available to drive to Indy I'll make the sex worth your while. and Hey let's meet up in Jeffersonville for coffee and lunch

My profile says "I can not stress this enough, I will only meet men who travel to me, I don't have the ability or desire to spend $ on a trip to meet someone outside my town, only message me if you
1. are OK with this
and
2. have the ability and desire to meet me here

One was VERY ATTRACTIVE but he didn't bother to read my SHORT to the point profile
Delete


Some women are real, but if you're not applying yourself you won't get anywhere in this site (as a man)

forget it

Same woman from above

Twice today my profile was blanked out

I had to rewrite it, trying to think of all the carefully constructed "what's ok what's not ok" lines

What type of guy I'm looking for, where I meet, line after line Gone. It doesn't sound as good now and I don't remember what I'm missing

I didn't save copy of it to the computer, I should have but that would be risky

My profile is blank AGAIN

Fark Ashley Madison

I am a female that has been on Ashley Madison for several years. I started when I was still married and thinking about a divorce. I met 2 men that I had sex with and continued with one of them for a few months. After my divorce, I stopped to do some "real" dating, only to find that married men where more interested and attentive to me that the single or divorced ones. So I joined again last year and have met several great guys that are friends as well as lovers. I am sane, clean, discreet, and always safe when choosing to meet a man from a dating site. There are "REAL" women on this site.....and I am proof of it!

Can't add any more, just reinforce what others have said. Some profiles obviously fake, recurrent billing, hidden conditions. All a complete waste of time & money. After 60 approaches I got replies from just two, and they simply stopped writing. Never any hope of a meeting. Compare with "plenty of fish", which is FREE. 20 approaches, seven replies within 24 hours, three of them within minutes. It's presented as a singles site but they have plenty of married there too, far more than AM, and most of them, maybe all, are genuine. Contacting people costs nothing. Steer clear of AM (and IE) both simply designed to part you from your cash.