How to Bounce Back after a Bad Date

If you've been single, chances are you've also had a few bad dates. Unfortunately, sometimes a bad experience is enough to turn someone completely off of dating. I've heard many women complain, "I just can't meet any good men in this city, so why should I bother?" I live in L.A., and while dating can be a strange thing to navigate here, there are certainly many people looking for love just like you.

So what do you do to bounce back when dating can feel like a waste of time? Bad dates happen. But this doesn't mean that all dates are bad. Think of it this way - some people you hit it off with and share instant chemistry. With others, you might feel a spark of interest or curiosity, and still others there's not much making you swoon. In other words, there are lots of gray areas. Not everyone is going to be amazing, but then - not everyone is going to be horrible, either. Some may pique your interest when you're not expecting it.

You might feel otherwise if you haven't met anyone special, or if you've just experienced a string of bad dates. But this is the best time to kind of recharge and adjust your perspective on dating. Following are some tips to help:

Join a dating site with a friend. Have you ever asked a friend to take an exercise class with you to help inspire you to actually go? It works well with dating, too. If you're over online dating, it's a lot more fun to join a new site with a friend. You can check in with each other to see how often you're logging in and who you're meeting. You can edit each other's profiles. When you're in it together, you don't feel so overwhelmed or alone.

Go someplace new. Instead of meeting for coffee or drinks at the places you know as a first date option, try something new. I like to recommend active dates, like jogging or wandering around a gallery or walking your dogs together. Check your local online listings for what's happening, and explore together.

Agree to a second date with someone you weren't so sure about. Maybe one of your past dates wasn't so bad - he just didn't exactly rock your world, either. He's worth a second chance. Most of us enter relationships based entirely on chemistry, but this can be misleading. How many relationships started this way but fizzled out quickly? People are more complex and rich than we could ever know in one meeting. Take more time and get to know them. You never know what could happen.