The best way to kill your new relationship on Valentine's Day
- Sunday, February 07 2010 @ 09:33 am
- Contributed by: EFoley
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Valentine's Day can be a stressful holiday for single people, but it can be an even more frustrating experience for those who are coupled up. For those in a long-term relationship, where this is your 2nd or 3rd or 15th Valentine's Day, it's easier. You know what your partner expects and you communicate well with each other about your needs.
But if it's your first Valentine's Day together, what do you do?
If you're lucky, you and your partner can have a discussion about the holiday and decide what to do together. Will you buy presents? Will you plan a romantic dinner out that night? Will you cook dinner together at home? Will you celebrate Valentine's Day out a day later to avoid the crowds? This can all be decided through frank and honest communication with your partner.
However, I'm not here to talk about all that... I want to tell you the story about a guy who sealed the coffin on a relationship with me on Valentine's Day.
This guy, we'll call him Mike, was a sweet guy. We had started dating in late January and had a couple nice dates for dinners and movies. He'd taken me to his job in a high-tech industry and given me a tour of their facilities. By the time Valentine's came around, we had been on about four dates.
We'd kissed a lot, but that's about as far as it had gone. It was very much still in the "we're dating" stage, not the "we're boyfriend/girlfriend" stage. And to be honest, I was having a hard time seeing us making the switch. There were things about him that just weren't clicking for me and (more honesty!) he was an AWFUL kisser. It was like his jawbone was crushing my face. I tried to nicely guide him in the direction of the type of kisses I like, but he wasn't very teachable.
But the nail in the coffin was the Valentine's Day card he gave me. Now, there are thousands of Valentine's Day cards to choose from in your local store. There are cards for spouses, cards for boyfriends/girlfriends, cards for other loved ones, serious cards, sappy cards, funny cards, non-committal cards. TONS!
What card did he choose for me? One that read like a love poem about our deep intimacy and affection and wished for us to grow old together. Seriously. It's something I'd expect after being married for five years, not after going on five dates.
The moral of the story: When in doubt, go for a funny Valentine's card. You can SHOW more love if you want, but you can't un-show an overly sappy card in a relationship that's not at that point yet.
Now you know, and knowing's half the battle!
But if it's your first Valentine's Day together, what do you do?
If you're lucky, you and your partner can have a discussion about the holiday and decide what to do together. Will you buy presents? Will you plan a romantic dinner out that night? Will you cook dinner together at home? Will you celebrate Valentine's Day out a day later to avoid the crowds? This can all be decided through frank and honest communication with your partner.
However, I'm not here to talk about all that... I want to tell you the story about a guy who sealed the coffin on a relationship with me on Valentine's Day.
This guy, we'll call him Mike, was a sweet guy. We had started dating in late January and had a couple nice dates for dinners and movies. He'd taken me to his job in a high-tech industry and given me a tour of their facilities. By the time Valentine's came around, we had been on about four dates.
We'd kissed a lot, but that's about as far as it had gone. It was very much still in the "we're dating" stage, not the "we're boyfriend/girlfriend" stage. And to be honest, I was having a hard time seeing us making the switch. There were things about him that just weren't clicking for me and (more honesty!) he was an AWFUL kisser. It was like his jawbone was crushing my face. I tried to nicely guide him in the direction of the type of kisses I like, but he wasn't very teachable.
But the nail in the coffin was the Valentine's Day card he gave me. Now, there are thousands of Valentine's Day cards to choose from in your local store. There are cards for spouses, cards for boyfriends/girlfriends, cards for other loved ones, serious cards, sappy cards, funny cards, non-committal cards. TONS!
What card did he choose for me? One that read like a love poem about our deep intimacy and affection and wished for us to grow old together. Seriously. It's something I'd expect after being married for five years, not after going on five dates.
The moral of the story: When in doubt, go for a funny Valentine's card. You can SHOW more love if you want, but you can't un-show an overly sappy card in a relationship that's not at that point yet.
Now you know, and knowing's half the battle!
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