Writing your dating profile when you're in transition

Sometimes, you're single and want to find love, but you're on the road between two things. You may think about hanging up our hat and not dating for while, but why put your life on hold, right? Let's look at some examples of reasons why people push the Pause button on their dating life.

Losing Weight
You're thinking, "I'm too fat to date. Nobody will want to date me. I'll lose 20/30/40/50+ pounds first, then I'll get back into the dating scene." Why hold yourself back from emotional connection with other people just because you're not at your physical ideal? Do what you can to look your best in your current condition - get a new haircut, some snappy clothes, whatever you can do to be your best at your current weight.

In your dating profile, you should write about the new lifestyle you've adopted in an attempt to lose weight and become more healthy. Are you doing the Couch to 5k program? Playing Wii Fit and EA Active? Working out with your best friend? Recently switched to a vegetarian diet? Write about your new lifestyle with passion and you'll attract people who live that lifestyle or want to adopt it themselves.

Unemployed
Unemployment is a reality for over 10% of Americans. You may think your dating life is doomed since you're out of work, but it doesn't have to be that way. Fancy dinners may be out of the budget, but there are plenty of inexpensive ways to have a romantic evening out.

In your dating profile, it's best not to mention you're unemployed. Write about the other aspects of your life that are going well. Maybe you've taken up knitting hats and mittens for the kids at the homeless shelter, or you've improved your tennis game. When the question of "what do you do for work?" comes up, be honest about your current situation. It may cost you the date, but in this economic climate, you'll find more sympathetic ears.

Moving to a New City
Congrats, you got a new job! Only problem is that it's in a new city and you're slated to move in two months. While you will be pretty busy packing, saying goodbye to your old friends, getting your utilities and things scheduled to turn off in the old place and on in the new place, etc etc, you don't have to completely put your dating life on hold.

Switch your dating profile over to your new location early. In your profile, mention that you're moving to town in a couple months to start a new job, so you figured you'd start getting to know new friends ahead of time. Folks are pretty open to the idea of showing a newcomer their favorite places in town, so you have a very convenient "problem" that potential romantic partners can "fix" for you.

Being in transition doesn't mean your dating life goes on Pause mode. Be honest about where you are and where you're going and you can continue the search for the best match for you.