Is Work getting in the way of your Love Life?
- Tuesday, March 22 2011 @ 09:21 am
- Contributed by: kellyseal
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You’ve worked very hard to achieve career success, and often put in long hours on the job. But maybe your ambitions have caused your personal life to suffer. Perhaps it’s been months since you’ve been on a date, or signed up with on online dating site. You find that work just takes up too much time, and hope that someday your future girlfriend or boyfriend will cross your path when it’s convenient for you.
Unfortunately, that’s usually not how life works.
Sometimes opportunities come along when we aren’t looking. And other times we have to dedicate time to other pursuits besides work that are important to us. Career is only one aspect of our lives. Relationships, friendships, and family are just as important. But these bonds need to be created and nurtured. There must be a balance.
If you find yourself unable to schedule time to check your new online dating matches, schedule a few coffee dates, or otherwise pursue a relationship, you’re going to have a difficult time finding the right person. If you can’t make time for a date, how can you make sufficient time for a relationship?
Technology allows us to stay very connected. It also allows our networks to grow. Instead of using these tools for business only, try using them towards your love life. Set aside 30 minutes each day (perhaps during lunch) to check your online matches. Set aside 2 nights per week to have drinks with dates. Attend one new networking event or party a week. Pay attention to your Facebook circles, and reach out. Don’t get frustrated that you may have to do this for several weeks or months before meeting someone special. Just do it, and stick to your schedule. You’ll find that putting time into your personal life helps your work life flow more easily as well.
The main point is that in order to achieve your desired results (a relationship), you must put in the time. There is no way to avoid it. Life is about balance, and if you spend all of it involved in work or a career pursuit, you could miss a great relationship that’s right in front of you.
Instead of putting your personal life on hold until it’s the right time, make time for it now. Besides, you never know who you might meet.
Unfortunately, that’s usually not how life works.
Sometimes opportunities come along when we aren’t looking. And other times we have to dedicate time to other pursuits besides work that are important to us. Career is only one aspect of our lives. Relationships, friendships, and family are just as important. But these bonds need to be created and nurtured. There must be a balance.
If you find yourself unable to schedule time to check your new online dating matches, schedule a few coffee dates, or otherwise pursue a relationship, you’re going to have a difficult time finding the right person. If you can’t make time for a date, how can you make sufficient time for a relationship?
Technology allows us to stay very connected. It also allows our networks to grow. Instead of using these tools for business only, try using them towards your love life. Set aside 30 minutes each day (perhaps during lunch) to check your online matches. Set aside 2 nights per week to have drinks with dates. Attend one new networking event or party a week. Pay attention to your Facebook circles, and reach out. Don’t get frustrated that you may have to do this for several weeks or months before meeting someone special. Just do it, and stick to your schedule. You’ll find that putting time into your personal life helps your work life flow more easily as well.
The main point is that in order to achieve your desired results (a relationship), you must put in the time. There is no way to avoid it. Life is about balance, and if you spend all of it involved in work or a career pursuit, you could miss a great relationship that’s right in front of you.
Instead of putting your personal life on hold until it’s the right time, make time for it now. Besides, you never know who you might meet.
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