Words that kill your online dating profile: drama

If I had a nickel...

This is one of those online dating phrases that sadly has permeated the culture. People see it in other people’s profiles and think, “Wow, that’s a good idea!” and add it to theirs. What they’re spreading is a phrase that puts up big red flags and turns away perfectly good dates.

What’s this word?

Drama.

More specifically, in its many incarnations:

“No drama.”
“Tired of the drama...”
“I hate drama queens...”
“The only drama I like is on a stage or screen.”
Etc, etc.

Please, folks, pull those references from your profile ASAP. They’re not helping you, and in fact, they’re hurting you.

Here’s why they’re not helping:

1) Many people who are drama queens don’t realize they are.
2) How often have you known on a first, second, or third encounter that someone was a drama queen? Sure, it happens sometimes, but usually it’s something that comes up after knowing someone for a while.

Thus, advertising “NO DRAMA” in your profile does absolutely nothing to keep drama queens out of your life. A drama queen isn’t going to read your profile, see “No drama” and say to themselves, “OMG! I’m a drama queen, I shouldn’t message this person.” It’s just not going to happen. Sorry.

Here’s how it’s hurting:

1) It’s showing that you have had enough experience with drama in the past that you feel the need to mention it in your profile.
2) People may assume that you ATTRACT dramatic people due to this statement. And if there’s anything just as bad as a drama queen, it’s someone who seems to always attract drama queens.

Rethink what’s in your profile. Make every sentence count and be tailored to the good qualities of the person you’d like to meet. That’s the best way to get the results you want.