What are your Biggest Turn-Ons?

You're with a couple of friends at a local bar, and someone catches your eye. You can't stop staring. Is it her eyes, her smile, or the way she carries herself, or even something more intangible?

There's something to be said for sensuality. You don't have to be drop-dead gorgeous to be sexy and attractive. So what is it that attracts us to some people and not necessarily to others?

For me, humor and attentiveness are very sexy qualities in a man. To someone else, it may be his intellect and confidence. What attracts us varies from person to person, which is why it's a good thing that we're all unique. If you try to hide what you perceive are flaws or if you think there's something different about you that you don't want others to know, you're sabotaging yourself and your love life. People are attracted to different qualities, and usually it has something to do with what you uniquely offer.

Men and women feel attraction in different ways. For women, it's all about connection. If she feels close to a man, it's a turn-on. There are many factors that make a woman feel connected - like if he listens and is attentive to her, if he treats her with respect and consideration, if he's a good kisser or physically in tune with her, or if he communicates well with her.

For men, turn-ons are more physical. They prefer women who smile and make eye contact, so that he knows she's open to him approaching and flirting with her. Men are also attracted to women who dress a little sexy - from wearing high heels or showing some skin in a low-cut blouse. (No need to be get slutty - show skin but most men prefer you keep it classy). Contrary to what women think (that men only like a certain "type" of woman) - men vary in their tastes of who they find physically attractive, so stop worrying about your body type or anything you may perceive as a flaw. There's also more to attraction than just the physical for men - according to AskMen.com, guys also prefer women who can have some fun and laugh with them.

For both men and women, the biggest turn-on is someone who feels comfortable in his or her own skin. Confidence is sexy. There's nothing more attractive than someone who knows who he is and isn't afraid to be himself.