Waiting Out Winter
- Thursday, May 05 2011 @ 09:15 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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After a long winter, the wait for spring seems interminable. And just when the weather starts to warm and we begin to look forward to barbecues and the beach, we get another cold snap. Even though we know summer will inevitably arrive, it feels a world away.
Online dating can be even more difficult. Unlike the turn of the Earth, there’s no deadline for romance. And sometimes, what can be even more frustrating than a profile that obviously needs work, is one that seems to bring results one week, but not the next.
“I don’t understand,” my friend Sarah said to me recently. “When I first put up my profile, I got at least a few winks, even a few emails. Nothing has changed, but now I’m not even getting responses to the emails I send.”
It would be nice if fate were kind enough to churn, say, three new compatible prospects out into the world each month. Without delay, they would find our profiles and contact us immediately. Reality, unfortunately, is rarely so convenient. Sometimes there simply aren’t any people out there who meet our criteria and are searching on our site. Sometimes there might be two or more.
So what can you do during a dry spell? Well, there are a few options. First, you can look for ways to freshen up your profile; though you don’t want to fix what isn’t broken, you want to make sure nothing is blatantly out-of-date. If someone reads that you’re looking forward to a movie that came out last year, they might not think you even use the site anymore; that’s a potentially large problem with an easy fix.
If you’re beginning to feel like you’ve exhausted the resources of your online dating site, you can always try another one. There are many free sites available. A change of scenery, even if it’s not necessarily the best fit for you, can be refreshing and make a long wait more interesting.
Finally, though it may be difficult, remember to have patience. Your potential matches aren’t just profiles and pictures; they’re real people, living their lives, operating on their own schedules. It can be frustrating, to be sure; but when schedules work themselves out and you find a chance at love, it's well worth the wait.
Online dating can be even more difficult. Unlike the turn of the Earth, there’s no deadline for romance. And sometimes, what can be even more frustrating than a profile that obviously needs work, is one that seems to bring results one week, but not the next.
“I don’t understand,” my friend Sarah said to me recently. “When I first put up my profile, I got at least a few winks, even a few emails. Nothing has changed, but now I’m not even getting responses to the emails I send.”
It would be nice if fate were kind enough to churn, say, three new compatible prospects out into the world each month. Without delay, they would find our profiles and contact us immediately. Reality, unfortunately, is rarely so convenient. Sometimes there simply aren’t any people out there who meet our criteria and are searching on our site. Sometimes there might be two or more.
So what can you do during a dry spell? Well, there are a few options. First, you can look for ways to freshen up your profile; though you don’t want to fix what isn’t broken, you want to make sure nothing is blatantly out-of-date. If someone reads that you’re looking forward to a movie that came out last year, they might not think you even use the site anymore; that’s a potentially large problem with an easy fix.
If you’re beginning to feel like you’ve exhausted the resources of your online dating site, you can always try another one. There are many free sites available. A change of scenery, even if it’s not necessarily the best fit for you, can be refreshing and make a long wait more interesting.
Finally, though it may be difficult, remember to have patience. Your potential matches aren’t just profiles and pictures; they’re real people, living their lives, operating on their own schedules. It can be frustrating, to be sure; but when schedules work themselves out and you find a chance at love, it's well worth the wait.
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