Too Soon For Presents?
- Saturday, January 01 2011 @ 10:15 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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As we enter the holiday season, we encounter a sticky subject: gift-giving. What if you’ve only had one date? What’s the magic number of dates before a present is expected? Or would giving a present be moving too quickly?
If only there was a magic response - this number of dates equals a DVD, for example. Alas, like everything else regarding relationships, this is dependent wholly on your unique relationship. However, let’s think this through a bit:
Perhaps the big issue is not whether or not to give a gift. If you’ve been on more than one date and it’s still going well, a gift of some kind will most likely be appreciated, and at this time of year, it’s a small gesture that goes a long way toward making someone feel recognized. So, let’s scratch this: go with the present. The real question, however, is how much time, effort and money should go into such a gift.
The key to a good present that doesn’t overwhelm is using personalized inside jokes. People can easily read become overwhelmed or read too much into an expensive gift; keeping things cheap, but thoughtful, is the way to go. Maybe a card that’s been “modified” to reflect some catch phrase between the two of you. Maybe a DVD that’s part of a running joke. Even a silly stuffed animal from the drugstore aisle can be a hit, if it’s purchased with some sort of double meaning, not as a generic “catch-all” gift.
The good thing about ensuring your gifts are personalized is that it’s an easy way to make sure your present is appropriate. At the beginning of a relationship, there aren’t that many in-jokes and stories; something cute but still a little impersonal is just fine. As time goes on and you have more adventures, gifts can get more elaborate, loaded with past references.
Whether you’re just getting to know each other or partners in crime, spend a little time thinking about the best parts of your relationship. It’s a great way to think up a holiday gift that provides even more memories, and that doesn’t break the bank.
If only there was a magic response - this number of dates equals a DVD, for example. Alas, like everything else regarding relationships, this is dependent wholly on your unique relationship. However, let’s think this through a bit:
Perhaps the big issue is not whether or not to give a gift. If you’ve been on more than one date and it’s still going well, a gift of some kind will most likely be appreciated, and at this time of year, it’s a small gesture that goes a long way toward making someone feel recognized. So, let’s scratch this: go with the present. The real question, however, is how much time, effort and money should go into such a gift.
The key to a good present that doesn’t overwhelm is using personalized inside jokes. People can easily read become overwhelmed or read too much into an expensive gift; keeping things cheap, but thoughtful, is the way to go. Maybe a card that’s been “modified” to reflect some catch phrase between the two of you. Maybe a DVD that’s part of a running joke. Even a silly stuffed animal from the drugstore aisle can be a hit, if it’s purchased with some sort of double meaning, not as a generic “catch-all” gift.
The good thing about ensuring your gifts are personalized is that it’s an easy way to make sure your present is appropriate. At the beginning of a relationship, there aren’t that many in-jokes and stories; something cute but still a little impersonal is just fine. As time goes on and you have more adventures, gifts can get more elaborate, loaded with past references.
Whether you’re just getting to know each other or partners in crime, spend a little time thinking about the best parts of your relationship. It’s a great way to think up a holiday gift that provides even more memories, and that doesn’t break the bank.
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