Tired of Dating? Try these Tips to Recharge your Search.

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  • Saturday, April 30 2011 @ 09:46 am
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No doubt about it, dating can be an emotional roller coaster ride. It takes persistence and patience, which can sometimes be hard to muster. We go from being excited to frustrated to disappointed in the span of an evening.

Instead of letting your frustration get the best of you by deleting your online profile and giving up on your search for Mr. Right, try some of these tips to give yourself some perspective and recharge your spirit:

Know you're not alone. The old saying about "all the good ones are taken" couldn't be farther from the truth. One third of the American adult population is single, or about 104 million people. Those are pretty good odds that one of them is right for you. The trick is to keep meeting people until you do find the right one.

Lighten up. Maybe you think that each date is a litmus test for how strong the chemistry is between you and where the relationship is headed. Instead of taking the process so seriously, try to have fun instead. If you don't feel chemistry right away but enjoy being with him, what's the harm in dating again? Many couples admit to falling in love with their partner after they developed a friendship. What's to lose?

Change your dating profile. Maybe you've been using the same online profile for the past few months. Have a friend look through it and see what changes they would make, or how they would describe you. Sometimes, all you need is a little refresher to attract more candidates to you. If your friend is single, have him join the site with you so you will be inspired to check your matches more often.

Open your mind. Instead of assuming things about your date, or predicting how your date will go, leave all assumptions at the door. Just because you had a negative experience in the past doesn't mean that you are doomed to repeat it. Everyone is different, and every date is an opportunity to experience something new.

Take a break. If you find yourself in a bad mood before your dates even begin, this is a sign of dating fatigue. It's important to start things off on the right foot, which means having a positive attitude. If you don't feel that you can be positive, take a break and reenergize. Do something that makes you feel great.

Try something new. Maybe you've been considering joining a ski group or taking cooking classes. There's no time like the present! Doing something you love makes you feel good, which makes you attractive to others. Even if you don't meet any eligible singles in these places, you may meet new friends who can introduce you to Mr. Right.