The Benefits of Bravery
- Tuesday, March 27 2012 @ 09:47 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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If you’re looking to take charge of your romantic fate, creating an online dating profile is an excellent way to start. Instead of waiting around for someone to approach you in some kind of chance meeting, why not put yourself out there with a profile that states you’re available? Since you’ll be easily findable by your interests, all that’s left now is to sit back and let the date offers roll in!
...Well, not quite. In fact, it’s that sort of mindset that often leaves people unhappy with their online dating experience. Even though you’ve gone to the trouble to set up a profile - a well-written one, even! - taking a passive attitude about dating is a surefire way to get less responses than you otherwise might.
“But no one wants someone who’s pushy or overbearing!” you might think. Whether or not that’s true, the fact remains that putting up a profile, but then failing to email anyone, is the equivalent of bothering to go outside, but bringing a book and wearing headphones. You might theoretically be present, but you’re not encouraging anyone to actually interact with you.
No, it might take a little bit of work, but in order for a conversation to occur, someone has to initiate it. If that person is you, you’ll save yourself a lot of time waiting around. Sure, there’s a risk of rejection - but in online dating, that either means you never get a response or you get an email you can delete. About as painless as rejection ever gets.
As a bonus, the lessons you learn in the world of online dating can then be applied in the “outside” world. If you see someone you’re interested in at the bookstore, why not approach them? Why not be a little more bold at work? No one, in any situation, will ever know your thoughts if you don’t express them.
Thus online dating remains an excellent way to take control of your love life - if you take full advantage of your opportunities. Why be timid, passive, and fearful of rejection? Why not follow up your fresh start on romance with a bolder you?
...Well, not quite. In fact, it’s that sort of mindset that often leaves people unhappy with their online dating experience. Even though you’ve gone to the trouble to set up a profile - a well-written one, even! - taking a passive attitude about dating is a surefire way to get less responses than you otherwise might.
“But no one wants someone who’s pushy or overbearing!” you might think. Whether or not that’s true, the fact remains that putting up a profile, but then failing to email anyone, is the equivalent of bothering to go outside, but bringing a book and wearing headphones. You might theoretically be present, but you’re not encouraging anyone to actually interact with you.
No, it might take a little bit of work, but in order for a conversation to occur, someone has to initiate it. If that person is you, you’ll save yourself a lot of time waiting around. Sure, there’s a risk of rejection - but in online dating, that either means you never get a response or you get an email you can delete. About as painless as rejection ever gets.
As a bonus, the lessons you learn in the world of online dating can then be applied in the “outside” world. If you see someone you’re interested in at the bookstore, why not approach them? Why not be a little more bold at work? No one, in any situation, will ever know your thoughts if you don’t express them.
Thus online dating remains an excellent way to take control of your love life - if you take full advantage of your opportunities. Why be timid, passive, and fearful of rejection? Why not follow up your fresh start on romance with a bolder you?
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