Taking Online Dating Offline
- Tuesday, March 23 2010 @ 09:09 am
- Contributed by: Adrie
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You’ve done it; you’ve met someone who seems great online and agreed to get together face-to-face. What do you do now that you won’t have the comfort and anonymity of your computer monitor to hide behind? How do you take that great chemistry and witty banter from IMs and emails to real life?? Taking online dating offline can be exciting and nauseatingly nerve-wracking at the same time, but it can and must be done. So is life as an online dater.
Taking online dating offline will be a lot easier if you’ve been honest with the other person up until that point. If you’ve made the mistake of lying about your appearance or anything else, then meeting face-to-face pretty much guarantees that the jig will be up and you’re in for a little embarrassment to say the least. If you have exaggerated the truth in terms of your height, weight or appearance in general, then you might want to come clean before your first meeting to save you both the added awkwardness since first dates are already hard enough without any unwanted surprises.
Another must when taking online dating offline is let go of any preconceived notions or over-inflated expectations that you may have where the other person is concerned. If you spend enough time chatting with someone before meeting it’s not uncommon to end up with certain expectations of what you think that person is like or how the date should go. The thing is; you can’t predict or force chemistry and you can’t expect someone to live up to an image that you have created in your mind. Go on your date with an open mind and don’t put pressure on yourself or the other person to be anything more than friendly. Even if you go on your date knowing full well that you are the same person online as you are offline; you can’t say for sure that they will be. Everyone reacts differently to different situations and circumstances and you can’t expect that things will go your way just because you want them to. Keep an open mind and go with the flow. Be yourself and see how it goes.
That’s pretty much all you need to do when it comes to taking online dating offline—that and using some common sense. Endless hours online doesn’t guarantee that you know the person well enough to trust them quite yet and you need to remember that when making plans. Taking online dating offline requires putting safety first, so agree to meet in a public place and arrange your own ride to and from the date. Don’t share details about where you live until you’ve had a chance to really get to know the other person. If you keep all of these things in mind, then taking your online dating to the next level will be a breeze.
Taking online dating offline will be a lot easier if you’ve been honest with the other person up until that point. If you’ve made the mistake of lying about your appearance or anything else, then meeting face-to-face pretty much guarantees that the jig will be up and you’re in for a little embarrassment to say the least. If you have exaggerated the truth in terms of your height, weight or appearance in general, then you might want to come clean before your first meeting to save you both the added awkwardness since first dates are already hard enough without any unwanted surprises.
Another must when taking online dating offline is let go of any preconceived notions or over-inflated expectations that you may have where the other person is concerned. If you spend enough time chatting with someone before meeting it’s not uncommon to end up with certain expectations of what you think that person is like or how the date should go. The thing is; you can’t predict or force chemistry and you can’t expect someone to live up to an image that you have created in your mind. Go on your date with an open mind and don’t put pressure on yourself or the other person to be anything more than friendly. Even if you go on your date knowing full well that you are the same person online as you are offline; you can’t say for sure that they will be. Everyone reacts differently to different situations and circumstances and you can’t expect that things will go your way just because you want them to. Keep an open mind and go with the flow. Be yourself and see how it goes.
That’s pretty much all you need to do when it comes to taking online dating offline—that and using some common sense. Endless hours online doesn’t guarantee that you know the person well enough to trust them quite yet and you need to remember that when making plans. Taking online dating offline requires putting safety first, so agree to meet in a public place and arrange your own ride to and from the date. Don’t share details about where you live until you’ve had a chance to really get to know the other person. If you keep all of these things in mind, then taking your online dating to the next level will be a breeze.
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