Some Dating Mistakes to Avoid

We all get advice from friends and family when it comes to love. Especially if we are having a hard time finding it. While they might have good intentions, keep in mind that you are in control of your life, and what they advise may not be best for you.

Instead of getting confused by what you should or shouldn't be doing when it comes to dating, the best rule is to be honest and true to yourself. The right person will love you for who you are, not who you are trying to be in order to "get" a girlfriend or boyfriend. That said, you should always put your best foot forward.

Following are some tips to help you:

Don't assume things about your date. Many of us think we can sum up a date in about five minutes. We think we know them well enough to determine whether or not we're attracted. While there's something to be said for instant chemistry, don't make this the only reason you'll entertain whether or not someone is worth dating. Chemistry is an elusive thing, and if falling for the hot, rich guys or sexy girls (or people you consider to be your type), hasn't worked for you in the past, maybe you should try something different. If you like someone, go out with him or her again. It may lead to the match you never expected.

Don't think you can change someone else. Many women are guilty of this: we think that a great guy would be perfect...except for one thing. We try to get him to change and resent him when he doesn't, instead of accepting him for who he is. Nobody is perfect (including you), so don't expect this from your partner, either.

Don't judge. Many of us meet a date and wonder if our friends and family would approve. Maybe he's much older, or she's divorced with children, or he travels for work a lot. Even if circumstances make it seem like she's not a great candidate on paper, she may be the right person for you. Only you can decide, so don't let other people's judgments of what they think is good for you cloud your own.

Don't be afraid of being alone. Despite the fact that you always pictured yourself married by the time you were 35 and it still hasn't happened, don't jump to the conclusion that life is passing you by. Embrace this time you have to yourself and develop your interests, socialize, and put yourself out there. The less fearful and more independent you are, the more easily you'll attract the right guy to you.

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