Small Town Dating
- Saturday, October 02 2010 @ 09:26 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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When you live in a big city like, say, Chicago or Houston, there's always a chance you could see someone you know on an online dating site, but it's not very likely. The sheer amount of people in the city means you'd probably have to comb through quite a few pages first. However, what if you live in a small town? Well, that's simple; the chances of seeing someone you know goes up. What if it's a really small town, the kind of quirky town that we see on TV and in movies, where everyone knows your name and your business? Well, then bear these Small Town Dating tips in mind.
First, just assume that everyone you know will eventually see or know about your profile. In the long run, life will be easier that way. In theory, you're doing your best to make a good first impression on your online profile anyway, so it shouldn't be too difficult to proofread with the rest of the town in mind. Think long and hard: is this a joke or a picture you'd be comfortable with your grandmother seeing, or your elderly neighbor? You don't want to completely change your writing “voice,” but you might want to save the raciest bits for when you're engaged in flirtatious emails.
Second, consider broadening your range. Maybe you happen to live in a small town, but Chicago or Houston is just a twenty-minute car trip away. That's a major advantage of online dating; you aren't as limited in your search. And let's face it, if your town only has three hundred people in it and you know most of them, at some point you're going to have to look elsewhere anyway.
Finally, remember that if you choose to go on a first date within your town limits, people will probably notice. And they'll probably have opinions. But as long as they don't regale you with their thoughts during the date, is this actually a bad thing? It's not a bad idea to meet someone new in a venue where others know and care about you, and would notice right away if you weren't yourself.
Ultimately, that's the thing to remember about living in a small town; yes, the romantic prospects may be slim, and yes, gossip may be plenty, but it's like having an extended family. You might have to plan your dates around the downsides, and that's fine – but don't forget the advantages.
First, just assume that everyone you know will eventually see or know about your profile. In the long run, life will be easier that way. In theory, you're doing your best to make a good first impression on your online profile anyway, so it shouldn't be too difficult to proofread with the rest of the town in mind. Think long and hard: is this a joke or a picture you'd be comfortable with your grandmother seeing, or your elderly neighbor? You don't want to completely change your writing “voice,” but you might want to save the raciest bits for when you're engaged in flirtatious emails.
Second, consider broadening your range. Maybe you happen to live in a small town, but Chicago or Houston is just a twenty-minute car trip away. That's a major advantage of online dating; you aren't as limited in your search. And let's face it, if your town only has three hundred people in it and you know most of them, at some point you're going to have to look elsewhere anyway.
Finally, remember that if you choose to go on a first date within your town limits, people will probably notice. And they'll probably have opinions. But as long as they don't regale you with their thoughts during the date, is this actually a bad thing? It's not a bad idea to meet someone new in a venue where others know and care about you, and would notice right away if you weren't yourself.
Ultimately, that's the thing to remember about living in a small town; yes, the romantic prospects may be slim, and yes, gossip may be plenty, but it's like having an extended family. You might have to plan your dates around the downsides, and that's fine – but don't forget the advantages.
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