Quirky Can Be Good
- Monday, May 31 2010 @ 08:05 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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Though there are still some who cling to the “perfect match” myth, I think most reasonable individuals understand that a relationship is more than possible even if not every interest matches up. We know that it's okay if we don't have all the same favorite movies, or if I like building model ships and he doesn't. We understand that a potential match might not always love every one of our hobbies.
What is harder to remember is that we might not love every one of their hobbies, either. In fact, it's entirely possible that the perfect match for you also has hobbies or habits that you find downright annoying.
Maybe it's a love of trashy reality TV. Maybe it's mushy romance novels. Maybe it's scale train sets that eat up the basement. Or maybe they get dressed up and go to historical reenactments.
Before you run screaming from someone who has a hobby that you think is from another planet, ask yourself one question: will you be expected to participate? Nine times out of ten, the answer is no; this person had this hobby long before you came into the picture, and would still have it if you left.
Besides, you're looking for a partner in life, not just in interests. Everyone is multi-faceted; this is only one aspect of your potential match. And while it may seem strange or weird to you now, who knows? You might find it endearing or interesting some day.
Nobody is entirely, completely perfect. If it's not a hobby you can't relate to, you might be annoyed by a tendency to squeeze toothpaste from the middle of the tube or to leave socks all over the place. Does a minor annoyance mean you're incompatible, or that a relationship is doomed? Absolutely not. A strong relationship is one in which you love the person despite their flaws; you aren't blind to them.
So if that almost-perfect person likes to build dollhouses, give them a chance regardless. You just might find yourself helping them pick out the miniature décor.
What is harder to remember is that we might not love every one of their hobbies, either. In fact, it's entirely possible that the perfect match for you also has hobbies or habits that you find downright annoying.
Maybe it's a love of trashy reality TV. Maybe it's mushy romance novels. Maybe it's scale train sets that eat up the basement. Or maybe they get dressed up and go to historical reenactments.
Before you run screaming from someone who has a hobby that you think is from another planet, ask yourself one question: will you be expected to participate? Nine times out of ten, the answer is no; this person had this hobby long before you came into the picture, and would still have it if you left.
Besides, you're looking for a partner in life, not just in interests. Everyone is multi-faceted; this is only one aspect of your potential match. And while it may seem strange or weird to you now, who knows? You might find it endearing or interesting some day.
Nobody is entirely, completely perfect. If it's not a hobby you can't relate to, you might be annoyed by a tendency to squeeze toothpaste from the middle of the tube or to leave socks all over the place. Does a minor annoyance mean you're incompatible, or that a relationship is doomed? Absolutely not. A strong relationship is one in which you love the person despite their flaws; you aren't blind to them.
So if that almost-perfect person likes to build dollhouses, give them a chance regardless. You just might find yourself helping them pick out the miniature décor.
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