Put On A Happy Face
- Friday, July 09 2010 @ 09:21 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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It's no surprise that it's a good idea to be positive on your online dating profile. We all say it, all the time. Cut the negative! It's like a snippet of meeting you on a good day, not a bad one!
What we forget to say is that it's even better if your positive attitudes are reflected in person.
I'm not talking about a first date, or even a meeting with a potential date. I'm talking about those random days when you're talking to the elderly lady you know at the grocery store and she asks you about your love life. Or your neighbors. Or your co-workers.
Why bother? Well, there's a few different reasons. First and foremost, why not? If you can remember to think positively and can pull yourself into a good mood, why not do so? You'll feel better, and others will like being around you.
Secondly, you never know who might be thinking of you. That elderly lady in the grocery store might have someone in mind that she's thinking of suggesting – but after listening to whining for ten minutes about the lack of prospects and why everyone must have something wrong with them, she's changed her mind. In a way, it's similar to networking – being pleasant to everyone can have positive, if indirect, results.
And finally, there are some people who simply need to develop better habits. They've gotten themselves stuck in an endless negative rut, and they simply need to form the habit of positive thinking to break the cycle. Pasting on a smile might feel fake at first, and so might saying good things about yourself. Eventually, however, the smiling becomes second nature, and the positive statements pay off. People want to be around that happy, smiling you. And people you don't know might want to meet you.
While it's important to make a positive first impression on your dating profile, it's equally important to do so in person. Why wait for a first date to try it out?
What we forget to say is that it's even better if your positive attitudes are reflected in person.
I'm not talking about a first date, or even a meeting with a potential date. I'm talking about those random days when you're talking to the elderly lady you know at the grocery store and she asks you about your love life. Or your neighbors. Or your co-workers.
Why bother? Well, there's a few different reasons. First and foremost, why not? If you can remember to think positively and can pull yourself into a good mood, why not do so? You'll feel better, and others will like being around you.
Secondly, you never know who might be thinking of you. That elderly lady in the grocery store might have someone in mind that she's thinking of suggesting – but after listening to whining for ten minutes about the lack of prospects and why everyone must have something wrong with them, she's changed her mind. In a way, it's similar to networking – being pleasant to everyone can have positive, if indirect, results.
And finally, there are some people who simply need to develop better habits. They've gotten themselves stuck in an endless negative rut, and they simply need to form the habit of positive thinking to break the cycle. Pasting on a smile might feel fake at first, and so might saying good things about yourself. Eventually, however, the smiling becomes second nature, and the positive statements pay off. People want to be around that happy, smiling you. And people you don't know might want to meet you.
While it's important to make a positive first impression on your dating profile, it's equally important to do so in person. Why wait for a first date to try it out?
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