Put Away Your Phone on a Date

Most of us are addicted to our phones. We check emails, Facebook, Twitter, and texts, even when we're in the middle of doing something else, something that requires our attention. We love being so easily accessible, and let's face it - smartphones have helped us in so many ways, thanks to their GPS capabilities and apps that can do anything from booking a taxi to informing you when and where your next meeting will be.

But technology can have a down side, too. It can be very distracting to have your phone beside you, always ready to be interrupted. When you are with your friends, you likely spend as much time on your phone as you do actually talking to them.

So what does this mean for your relationships?

While your online social life might be thriving, you could be hurting your real social life. When your phone is a constant presence, and you'll drop everything to look at it when you hear a text message come through, you're not giving full attention to the people you're with.

This is especially true when you're dating. How many times have you been on a date and placed your phone on the table, just in case you get an important call or text? Or maybe you have it with you because it gives you a sense of security - a way out of the date when you need it. But this practice can work against you.

According to a recent study by the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, just the presence of your mobile phone can stifle a budding relationship. According to researchers, while the presence of cell phones doesn't affect casual conversation much, they do affect how people perceive their dates. If it looks like you could take a call from someone else at any minute, your date is less likely to trust or empathize with you.

The key to connection in dating is for each person to feel important, respected, and heard. This really isn't possible when there's distraction looming throughout the date. Even if your cellphone never rings, its mere presence can make your date feel less comfortable and less likely to share intimate or meaningful conversation.

If you do need to keep your phone by your side, whether it's because of a potential work or family emergency, then perhaps you can reschedule the date. If you don't reschedule, then I suggest keeping your phone in your pocket or purse and then excusing yourself every so often to check it (please do this outside or away from your date).

Your phone is a great resource, but don't let it replace real-life interactions.