Online Dating and the Married Guy

I, as many other women do, wonder how it is that a married guy has the balls to post a profile on an online dating site and seek out women. There are the guys who outright post the fact that they are AshleyMadison.com married and looking for some fun on the side and then you have those who claim to be single and looking for love even though they are indeed married. They're the worst of the worst! I have no right to judge those who chose to stray from their marriages, but I don't take kindly to being mislead and feel for the women who get sidetracked on their quest for love by someone who tells the ultimate lie. It is for you women that I write this article.

As much as you need to open up your heart in order to find love, you also need to be on your toes and able to spot the married guys who are out there claiming to be available. The chance of being misled by a married guy claiming to be single is there whether you're looking for love online or the old fashioned way, so don't be put off. Just be aware of these telltale signs that he's married:

He asks for your contact information but doesn't share his. This is usually because he doesn't want you calling at an inopportune time-like when his wife is sitting right next to him.

He's only available during business hours. Beware the guy who can only talk or get together during business hours. Most cheaters will happily skip out for a lunch date and spend their work day on the phone or chatting with you online only to disappear in the evenings and on weekends. This is a big red flag that he's got someone else.

He always wants to go to your place and never his. This one is pretty obvious! He has a wife or girlfriend at home and can't take you there.

He whispers or talks very quietly on the phone. Yes, there are married guys who are despicable enough to call another woman while at home with their wives and to do so they have to speak quietly. Sure, once in awhile a situation may call for a hushed voice, but if it happens more than once, then move on!

His stories never seem to add up. If you're finding discrepancies in the stuff he tells you from where he's been to why he hasn't called, then move on because he's a liar. Is he married? Maybe not, but a liar is a liar and this is a huge red flag that you're being misled.