Don't be an Online Dating Profile Sourpuss: Tips for Re-Spinning Don'ts into Dos

We’ve all read those online dating profiles that read like a laundry list of “don’ts.” When it comes to finding someone you click with, why would you start with a list of things you don’t want? Honestly, all that’s going to do is turn-off the people you really want to connect with: the upbeat guys and gals with a great outlook on life who are ready to be in a lasting relationship.

When writing your online dating profile, keep in mind one very important thing: it’s the only impression your Virtual Matches have of you! If you start off talking about how you’ve been hurt, who you don’t trust and everything you don’t want in a partner, you’re more likely to be seen as a sourpuss instead of a stand-up guy or gal. Turn that frown upside down - here are some tips to get your profile tone on track and those Virtual Matches knocking on your door.

Negative Spin: I don’t like kids and won’t date people with kids.
That’s just fine. Not everyone wants to be a parent. Perhaps you’re still raising your kids or your kids are grown and have left the nest. Whatever your reasons, it’s perfectly fine to have parameters on who you feel will be a good fit for your lifestyle.

Re-Spin: If you have children of your own still living at home, I’m afraid we won’t be a good match. Your kids deserve as much of your time as possible and I know my lifestyle won’t be accommodating. Best of luck – your match is out there!

Negative Spin: I can’t stand people who cheat. I’ve been cheated on before and I don’t want it to happen again.
It’s painful when someone you love and trust betrays you and chooses infidelity. No one will argue with that. Instead of speaking from a place of hurt, tell your Virtual Matches that it’s an important issue for you with a re-spin.

Re-Spin: Open and honest communication are very important to me and should be top priorities for the person who’s my match. What can I say? I’m a monogamist at heart and really appreciate the whole one guy/one girl concept. If you’re looking for the same and a committed relationship is important to you – drop me a line!

Negative Spin: I don’t want to date someone who’s divorced.
Many people see their walk down the aisle as a one-time event. Nothing wrong with that! In order to make sure you find Virtual Matches who fit your criteria, try this re-spin.

Re-Spin: I’ve always imagined that the person I’ll share my life with is on a similar path. It will be the first – and only – marriage for both of us and we’ll commit to working together to make it one that lasts. I’d rather tell you that’s where my heart lies now than after meeting you and finding that your divorce is a “sticky” issue for me. I hope you appreciate my honesty and I know my once-in-a-lifetime mate is out there!

Negative Spin: I hate workaholics. If you love your iPhone or Blackberry more than me, beat it.
Technology can get the better of us, no? We all want someone who is present and accounted for in a relationship and we never want to feel as if we’re competing with someone’s job for their attention and time.

Re-Spin: I’m happy with my career and have made it a priority to take time away from my work and spend it with those people who are important to me. If you’re at a point where work is a higher priority than a loving relationship, then I’m probably not the guy/gal for you. However, if you’re interested in enjoying your life and career – and ensuring you have time for both – then look me up. I’d love to meet you.