Online Dating: Profile DOs (and Don’ts)

Though many of us are familiar with online dating, every once in a while it's good to approach it with a new perspective. The most important aspect of the process is your introduction, or your profile. Many people don't understand its importance, but it is the gateway to attracting the right person to you. The best strategy I've found is keeping your profile current, logging in regularly, and responding quickly to emails and communications.

We all get discouraged sometimes, but it is possible to enjoy the process and have an easier time while online dating. Here are some basic do's and don'ts to help make your online search as fruitful as possible:

DO: have a friend or two read your profile and give suggestions. Be open to their comments, because they want to see you happy and can give you perspective on how others may perceive you.

DO: find a single friend to join you in your online dating search. It's much more fun to share stories and compare notes with people, as well as getting some encouragement to "get out there" and date.

DO: change your profile pictures on a regular basis. Like your Facebook photos, profile pictures are important and should stay current. Have a friend photograph you doing something interesting rather than just posing. Also, try to have a variety of shots, including a full body shot.

DO: use a profile name that expresses who you are. Instead of going for sexy (SexyGirl1 doesn't really appeal in any specific way), try associating your handle with something you like (LinaTravel or Luv2Cook for example).

DON'T: be intimidating. Men like to pursue and flirt. If you demand responses or state in your profile such warnings as "no drama" or "no cheaters", it sends the wrong message out (i.e. you are high maintenance or you have a lot of baggage). Be light, flirtatious, and discuss your interests. Ask questions and get to know him. Leave your past relationships behind.