Online Dating: Meeting him for the First Time
- Sunday, December 05 2010 @ 09:51 am
- Contributed by: kellyseal
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You’ve written emails back and forth and talked on the phone a few times. You’re feeling more excited about your first meeting with your new online love interest. How can you better prepare yourself for the big day?
Following are some tips to make sure you’re steady on your feet when you finally meet:
1. Don’t drag out the process. Instead of emailing and talking for hours on the phone prior to your first face-to-face encounter, keep it short and simple! Our expectations are built up when we prolong the first meeting, so it can be much more of a let-down if the connection isn’t as great as it seemed over the Internet. Instead, send a couple of emails and then ask to meet for a quick cup of coffee.
2. Dress to impress. I can’t tell you how many men I dated felt it was appropriate to show up to our first date in board shorts and flip flops. Also ladies, there’s no need to let your cleavage hang out or wear short shorts. If you want to make a good first impression, dress up a little and leave something to the imagination!
3. Keep the date short. Even if you feel this could be the one, keep the first date limited to coffee or a drink. Remember, if it’s good, you’ll leave him wanting more, and if it’s bad, you can beg out early.
4. Calm your nerves. You may be nervous, but remember, this is only a first date! Instead of trying too hard, keep your approach light and try not to stress about the future, what he thinks, or anything else. Be in the moment.
5. Don’t scrutinize. If you have your checklist of what you want at the ready, you will likely not have a good time on the date. You’ll be too busy analyzing his actions, and likely be quick to judge before you really get to know him.
6. Be honest. If you’re not into him, let him know before too much time goes by. Even if it’s hurtful at first, most people appreciate knowing there’s no chance for a relationship than wondering what happened.
Following are some tips to make sure you’re steady on your feet when you finally meet:
1. Don’t drag out the process. Instead of emailing and talking for hours on the phone prior to your first face-to-face encounter, keep it short and simple! Our expectations are built up when we prolong the first meeting, so it can be much more of a let-down if the connection isn’t as great as it seemed over the Internet. Instead, send a couple of emails and then ask to meet for a quick cup of coffee.
2. Dress to impress. I can’t tell you how many men I dated felt it was appropriate to show up to our first date in board shorts and flip flops. Also ladies, there’s no need to let your cleavage hang out or wear short shorts. If you want to make a good first impression, dress up a little and leave something to the imagination!
3. Keep the date short. Even if you feel this could be the one, keep the first date limited to coffee or a drink. Remember, if it’s good, you’ll leave him wanting more, and if it’s bad, you can beg out early.
4. Calm your nerves. You may be nervous, but remember, this is only a first date! Instead of trying too hard, keep your approach light and try not to stress about the future, what he thinks, or anything else. Be in the moment.
5. Don’t scrutinize. If you have your checklist of what you want at the ready, you will likely not have a good time on the date. You’ll be too busy analyzing his actions, and likely be quick to judge before you really get to know him.
6. Be honest. If you’re not into him, let him know before too much time goes by. Even if it’s hurtful at first, most people appreciate knowing there’s no chance for a relationship than wondering what happened.
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